Tag: We Need To Talk

‘You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way.’ Song of Songs 4:7(NLT)

‘Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly.’ Colossians 3:19(NLT)

‘The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control. ‘ 1 Corinthians 7:3-5(NLT)

‘Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. ‘ Ecclesiastes 4:9(NLT)

You and your partner have core needs. These needs require both of you to practice specific behaviors that make each of you feel loved. These needs are normal, innate, and God-given. They are personality based, an essential part of who you are, and they don’t change over your lifetime.

To feel truly loved, you must have your core needs met on a regular basis. And they can be met only by your significant other.

(It must be stated here that as individuals we have needs in our lives that only God can meet.)

But here’s the catch. It will be very difficult for you to meet each other’s core needs. It will not come naturally. In fact, meeting your partner’s core needs will be your area of greatest weakness. Doesn’t seem fair, does it? Well, who said love is fair? Love is hard.

Tell your partner your top three core needs. Ask your partner how you are doing meeting his or her core needs.

For my wife and I, our daily need-meeting system has made a huge difference in our relationship. We are convinced it will do the same for you and your partner.

from Honey, We Need To Talk

‘The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. ‘ 1 Corinthians 7:3(NLT)

‘Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. ‘ Ephesians 4:2-3(NLT)

‘There are three things that amaze me— no, four things that I don’t understand: how an eagle glides through the sky, how a snake slithers on a rock, how a ship navigates the ocean, how a man loves a woman.’ Proverbs 30:18-19(NLT)

‘let no one split apart what God has joined together.”’ Mark 10:9(NLT)

I know the secret to deep, lifelong intimacy between a man and a woman.

I’m not kidding. I really do know the secret.

The secret is this: learning to tell each other the truth about practically everything.

I say learning because no one has the natural ability or inclination to communicate clearly and deeply with the opposite sex. No one.

When we begin a relationship, we are not prepared or even able to be open and honest with the other person. Quite the opposite, in fact.

We hide the truth. We hold back the truth. We distort the truth. We have no idea how to truly connect in conversation and get to know each other. Why? We don’t speak the truth because it is human nature to protect oneself and not be vulnerable. Sharing truth, especially with the person we are closest to, exposes us to potential harm and pain. It feels a lot safer to keep truth hidden.

It is the unspoken things that limit intimacy and eventually kill it. It is what we don’t say that keeps us from the soul-mate closeness that we need and that God wants us to enjoy. It’s time for real talk about real issues.

Let’s get to work.

from Honey, We Need To Talk