Tag: Three Questions For Husbands

‘For when a strong man is fully armed and guards his palace, his possessions are safe—’ Luke 11:21(NLT)

‘So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the Lord your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you.”’ Deuteronomy 31:6(NLT)

‘He trains my hands for battle; he strengthens my arm to draw a bronze bow.’ Psalms 18:34(NLT)

‘A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. ‘ Ephesians 6:10(NLT)

Devotional Content:

Today is the final day of this series for men. So far we have answered two questions. The first: “Is your wife your best friend?” The second: “Is God at the center of your marriage?” Today’s question is “Are you her warrior?”

If you search online for the word warrior, you get various descriptions of someone—usually a fighter or a soldier—who is courageous, brave, and vigorous. As husbands, God has given us the role of being the leader. I think being a warrior is part of that.

As warriors, we bring a sense of safety and security to our wives. They want to know that we will protect them, look after them, and keep them from harm. They want to know that we would never knowingly harm them.

A husband warrior also has the courage to lead his wife and to do it in a way that honors God.

Here are some ways for you to be a warrior:

1. Set a level playing field. If you have ever hurt your wife in any way, tell her you are sorry and that from today on you will never knowingly hurt her.

2. Ask her what you can do to help her feel protected and cared for.

3. Ask her about her fears and then together lay those at the feet of God in prayer.

4. Pray for God to daily show you how to be a warrior in your marriage.

Try this for 60 days and let us know how you like being a “warrior” in your marriage.

Today’s Challenge:

Dr. Kim shares that God has given husbands the role of being the leader and that part of that is being a warrior. Wives want to know that husbands will protect them, look after them, and protect them from harm. In what ways can you better be a warrior for your wife?

Going Deeper:

1. Take time to ask your wife about her fears this week. Then pray with your wife about her fears and lay those fears at the feet of God.

2. Take Dr. Kim’s advice and level the playing field. Tell your wife you are sorry if you ever hurt her, and let her know you will never willingly hurt her.

3. Do something special this week to tell your wife you will keep her safe. You could write her a note, find a Bible verse to share with her, or buy a small, creative gift for her that represents you as her warrior.

4. Pray and ask God to help you have courage and to be a warrior for your wife.

from Three Questions For Husbands by Dr. Kim Kimberling

‘But there is one thing I want you to know: The head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. ‘ 1 Corinthians 11:3(NLT)

‘Care for the flock that God has entrusted to you. Watch over it willingly, not grudgingly—not for what you will get out of it, but because you are eager to serve God. Don’t lord it over the people assigned to your care, but lead them by your own good example. ‘ 1 Peter 5:2-3(NLT)

‘And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body. As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.’ Ephesians 5:21-33(NLT)

Devotional Content:

Okay guys, here is the second question to ask yourself as you work to relate better to your wife.

Question: “Is God at the center of your marriage?”

For most of us, that is a tough one. This is an area that can really scare us. I mean, if we struggle being relational, how can we lead our wives spiritually? Let me give you some ideas to get you started.

Find a good church and go—take your wife and go every week.

Pray for your wife every day. Keep it simple. Ask God to give her a good day and to help you to be a great husband.

Read the Bible with her. You do not have to be a Bible scholar. Download the YouVersion Bible App. It has lots of great reading plans and devotionals that will make you look like a Bible scholar. Talk together about what you read.

That’s it. Do this for 60 days and let us know what happens.

Today’s Challenge:

Dr. Kim shares that if we aren’t relational at all, we can’t lead our wives spiritually. What can you do to be more relational with your wife when it comes to God?

Going Deeper:

1. What do you think it means to lead your wife spiritually?

2. Are you a part of a local church? If not, what is standing in your way? Make a commitment to find a church to attend regularly with your wife. Look up 3 potential churches for you to go to in your area and visit them to find the church that’s right for you.

3. Dr. Kim shares some practical ways to put God at the center of your marriage: Find a good church, pray for your wife every day, read the Bible with your wife, and then talk together about what you read. Make a commitment to do those 4 things with your wife for 60 days and watch it change your marriage.

4. Pray and ask God to help you put Him at the center of your marriage.

from Three Questions For Husbands by Dr. Kim Kimberling

‘There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.’ Proverbs 18:24(NLT)

‘Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. ‘ Romans 12:10(NLT)

‘Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God. But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love.’ 1 John 4:7-8(NLT)

Devotional Content:

Often I talk to men who really want their marriages to be better but just do not know what to do. Men are usually not very relational, but our wives usually are. We need to know how to relate to our wives on this level. Let me ask you three questions over the next few days that, I believe, will get you on the right track.

First Question: “Is your wife your best friend?” Our wives long for our companionship. They not only want us to spend time with them but also want us to enjoy the time we spend with them. Your wife wants to be your first choice. Here are some ideas:

Sit down with your wife and ask her for some ways she would like for you to spend time with her. 

When she is talking to you, listen. I mean, really listen. Be able to tell her what she said.

Respond to her questions. Add your input.

Next to God, think of her first. Pray for her. Let her know how much she means to you.

Surprise her when she least suspects you to be thinking of her.

Tell her every day that you love her.

That’s it. Try making her your best friend for the next 90 days. I promise you that your marriage will be on the way to becoming Awesome!

Today’s Challenge:

Dr. Kim shares that our wives want to be our first choice. What can you do this week to show your wife that she is your first choice?

Going Deeper:

1. Dr. Kim shares that our wives are very relational and that we need to find ways to relate to them. What is one thing you can do to better relate to your wife?

2. Sit down with your wife this week and ask her some ways she would like you to spend time with her.

3. When was the last time you surprised your wife? What is something simple you can do this week to surprise your wife?

4. Pray and ask God to help you to be best friends with your wife, and make a commitment to pray for your wife every day this week.

from Three Questions For Husbands by Dr. Kim Kimberling