Tag: Sweetening Your Sex Life

‘Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. ‘ Philippians 4:6(NLT)

We want to encourage you to spend time with God asking Him to uncover areas in your sexual life which could use improvement. As He reveals these to you, write them down so you can pray about them ongoingly. 

It could be as simple as asking God to increase the level of attraction you feel for your spouse, or your spouse feels for you. Or it might be far more personal. Whatever it is you want God to work within, be sure to take it to Him in prayer (Philippians 4:6).. 

The marital sex life isn’t something that Christians are often instructed to pray about; however, it is something deserving of prayer. There is nothing off-limits with God when it comes to your prayer life. Share with Him how you feel, what you’d like to experience and areas where you’d like Him to transform things. Then watch how He works in your life and in your spouse’s life to bring about good.  

Prayer for Blessing & Freedom in Sexual Intimacy

“Gracious Lord, thank You for giving us the opportunity to pray to you about our sex life. No one knows each of us better than You do. You know what we desire and how to achieve the fulfilling satisfaction of that desire. Teach us how to satisfy each other in ways that bring pleasure to us as well. 

Bless our sexual activity with creativity, fun, and an abiding connection. Keep spontaneity in our hearts and minds. And help us to remember the romance, soft touches, and gentle words that precede sex throughout our casual times together, or even when things get busy. 

I pray that our marital sex life will be so enjoyable that we will both look forward to it equally and with mutual enthusiasm. Heal any past or present wounds that may inhibit our full expression of sexual love. We thank You for this, and so much more. In Christ’s name, amen.”

from Sweetening Your Sex Life

‘Oh, how beautiful you are! How pleasing, my love, how full of delights! You are slender like a palm tree, and your breasts are like its clusters of fruit. I said, “I will climb the palm tree and take hold of its fruit.” May your breasts be like grape clusters, and the fragrance of your breath like apples. May your kisses be as exciting as the best wine—
Young Woman
Yes, wine that goes down smoothly for my lover, flowing gently over lips and teeth. I am my lover’s, and he claims me as his own. Come, my love, let us go out to the fields and spend the night among the wildflowers. Let us get up early and go to the vineyards to see if the grapevines have budded, if the blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates have bloomed. There I will give you my love.’ Song of Songs 7:6-12(NLT)

When a couple both guards and cherishes the sexual intimacy in their marriage, they share a bond designed to give life, vitality, and enjoyment. In fact, God so wired the chemicals in our bodies that regular marital intercourse actually produces a chemical connection to each other. 

God has created different hormones to release before, during, and after sex in such a way that enables married couples to strengthen the stability of their relationship through this shared gift (Song of Solomon 7:6-12)..

Prayer is also a way to cultivate your sexual relationship. Whatever needs or lack you may be experiencing in your sexual intimacy as a married couple can (and should) be addressed to God in prayer. We offer this opening guided-prayer as a way of getting you thinking toward your own prayers on this subject of sexual expression in marriage.

Praising God

“Heavenly Father, You created this gift of sexual intimacy which is to be cherished, honored, and enjoyed within a marriage. You placed within us various hormones that give us the opportunity for great pleasure and a strengthening of our bond together. Thank You for creating sex and allowing us to have this to share together in our marriage. 

As we remain intimate with each other as a couple, we continue to experience a depth of love that reflects Your love for us. We praise and honor You for Your provision of delight, physical satisfaction, and intimacy. In Jesus’ name, amen.”

from Sweetening Your Sex Life

‘Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.’ Proverbs 5:18-19(NLT)

One way to express intimacy in the Biblical Hebrew culture came through the repetition of a name. We see this happen multiple times in Scripture. Examples include:

· God calling out to Abraham as he is about to sacrifice Isaac (Abraham, Abraham)

· God sending Jacob on a journey of significance (Jacob, Jacob)

· The message from the burning bush (Moses, Moses)

· The whisper in the night to the prophet-in-training at the temple (Samuel, Samuel)

· Jesus’ comforting Martha in the midst of her brother’s death (Martha, Martha)

· Jesus weeping over Jerusalem who is like a lost sheep (O, Jerusalem, Jerusalem)

The repetition of a name signifies a closeness and depth of care beyond the norm. Names reflect who we are. They are tied to us uniquely and personally. In fact, there are some cultures in Africa where a person’s name is considered so intimate that it is only allowed to be spoken of by an immediate relative. Everyone else in this region must use a form of father, mother, sister or brother combined with another identifying factor when calling on that person. 

Intimacy identifies a different level of relationship, whether it comes through language, proximity or affection. Sexual intimacy offers us the deepest expression of closeness and care with another and, because of that, should be one of the most guarded and cherished aspects of the marriage relationship (Proverbs 5:18-19). 

Guarding the marital sexual relationship does not only refer to protecting your heart and mind from external infringements or distractions. It also refers to finding new ways to protect your sexual relationship with your spouse from the futility of familiarity. This might include looking for new ways, locations or times of day to fully enjoy each other. 

Sending loving text messages throughout the day or leaving notes around the house can also ignite emotions and feelings toward each other, setting the stage for sexual engagement later on. And while marital sex involves a depth beyond just the physical, being mindful that God has created the physical for each other’s enjoyment can serve as an impetus for paying attention to personal appearance and clothing throughout the day that your spouse particularly likes. Cherishing your sexual relationship involves consistency, care, and discovery concerning what truly pleases each other.

 from Sweetening Your Sex Life