Tag: Praying Over Your Husband's Head

‘In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.’ 1 Peter 3:7(NLT)

Taking the time to reflect on your personal prayer focus regarding your husband’s life can give you insight into how you can better use this tool for the good of your family. Spend a moment reflecting on the following thought-provoking questions. Then, use the guided prayer as a catalyst for praying for your husband right now.

• Who has your husband become in his character because you have prayed for him?  
• What meaningful achievements has your husband enjoyed in because you prayed for him?  
• What is one decision your husband has made that you feel is out of God’s will? Ask God to intervene to change his mind.
• What areas would you like to see your husband improve in your marriage and his leadership at home, and commit to praying for those this week.

Gracious Lord, Your Word says first and foremost that if my husband is not treating me with honor and grace, both of our prayers will be hindered. I desire for our prayers to be heard and answered, Lord, so please give him a heart to treat me according to how You want him to do so (1 Peter 3:7). 

Help me to cultivate an atmosphere in our home where he trusts me and desires to treat me with kindness and grace. I also ask that You give quick answers to my husband’s prayers so that he will see the effectiveness of using this spiritual tool in his life and in our home. Let these answers build upon each other so that his prayer muscles will be strengthened and he will look to prayer as a regular part of living life successfully. 

Give me wisdom to know when to speak and when to allow You to correct my husband’s thinking. I pray that You will move swiftly when I seek Your intervention in his choices as a way of affirming and building my own confidence in Your intervening Hand. Thank You for hearing my prayers for him and for responding. In Christ’s name, Amen.

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‘Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. ‘ Philippians 4:6(NLT)

Are you unsure of how to best pray for your husband? Do you struggle to find the courage and words to take you to higher level of influence in your marriage?

Prayer is one of the most beautiful tools you can use for the direction of your home, but trying to know his heart and pray with intention can feel overwhelming. You can’t understand his every spiritual need for direction and guidance—but God knows.

That’s why God has placed you as a powerful force of prayer for your husband’s life. Move from uncertainty to assurance as you devote yourself daily to conversation with the Lord who created, knows, and fiercely loves your husband.

Here is a guided prayer to move you in this direction:

Heavenly Father, I ask that You will enable us as a couple to refrain from drawing conclusions, making assumptions or reacting emotionally when we have not yet sought to clarify the cause of our conflict through seeking to understand both the truth of the actions and the intentions behind the actions. 

Help my husband to live in such a way – making right choices throughout his work life, home life and social life – so that the enemy does not have a stronghold from which to attack our family. 

Surround him with Your breastplate of righteousness to protect his honor and heart. And when conflict does arise, let peace both dominate and preserve the sanctity of our relationship and intimacy of our communication and love of the truth. If my husband has made a decision outside of your will, I ask that You will intervene to change his direction before he moves us too far forward the wrong way. Give my husband wisdom to discern your leading and help me to refrain from criticizing him. In Christ’s name, Amen.

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‘You can ask for anything in my name, and I will do it, so that the Son can bring glory to the Father. ‘ John 14:13(NLT)

I’ll (Bruce) never forget learning firsthand the amazing power of my wife’s prayers for me in the early days of our marriage. Back then, I misunderstood how to be the “head’ of our marriage with grace and kindness. A major decision had to be made and although Darlene did her best to share her wisdom and change my mind, I didn’t have ears to hear. 

After she saw I had my mind made up, she accepted the decision although she strongly disagreed. About a week later, I learned some new information that radically changed my mind. Over dinner I shared the fact that I had been wrong and had changed my mind. 

She smiled but didn’t say a word. I asked her why she was smiling.  She reluctantly revealed the reason. “Well, I knew your decision wasn’t the right one and was going to negatively affect us and our family but you just couldn’t see it.  I felt you would suffer in the future too.  So, I stopped arguing and just went over your head.” 

“Over my head?” I asked, kind of in shock.  She sensitively said, “Well, I couldn’t help you, so I went over your head directly to God and asked Him to change your mind for me.”  I shook my head in unbelief, threw my head back and laughed and laughed, and said, “Wow, what a great idea!  Thanks for doing that because I was definitely heading in the wrong direction and my decision would have been disastrous!” 

Then it hit me. “So…how many times have you gone over my head?”  

She smiled as only a wife can do and replied, “I’ll never tell! It’s something God seems to enjoy saying “yes” and I’m thrilled that He does!” 

“No kidding” I mumbled, feeling rather helpless….

In our conversations over the years, we have talked about this powerful prayer option available to all married women. One day she said rather openly, “I had to learn that sometimes God didn’t answer my prayer with a “yes” but wanted you to learn from your mistakes the hard way.  I came to realize that His answer was always the best one in the long-term for you and me. Sometimes, though, I had to suffer from your mistakes which was God’s plan for me as well.”  My goodness, did I ever marry a jewel. 

You, my friend, are also a jewel. A jewel who holds the power to influence your husband in ways beyond what you may have ever even realized. Yes, you have God’s ear. And His heart. Discover how much He cares as you learn to take everything to Him in prayer.

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