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‘But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too.”’ Mark 11:25(NLT)

If I have learned one thing about getting along with my spouse, it is that Jesus treats me the way that my spouse wants to be treated by me. 

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Your spouse isn’t perfect, and it’s so important to realize that neither are you. It is so easy to forget all the times we’ve messed up, when our spouse messes up once. That’s why it is so important to remember the value of your marriage over the frustration of a moment. Take a minute to remember the way Jesus treats you when you mess up. He doesn’t panic or freak out or yell, He points you back to the Cross and reminds you that He still loves you. It is vital to our marriages to forgive, to remember how much we’ve been forgiven for, and to cling ever so tightly to the example of Jesus when it comes to the way that we treat our spouse. Ask God for guidance and grace when it comes to loving your spouse the way that you are called to. He is willing and able to help you every step of the way! 

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‘And one of them struck at the high priest’s slave, slashing off his right ear. But Jesus said, “No more of this.” And he touched the man’s ear and healed him.’ Luke 22:50-51(NLT)

When you hurt your spouse, you hurt Christ, too.

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Think of someone you love unconditionally. How would you feel if someone was rude or harsh towards them? Not happy, right? It would probably hurt you too, huh? You know that’s exactly how God feels about your spouse? That’s His child you’re dealing with, and it hurts Him when they are hurt or treated wrongly. That is such a huge form of accountability in our marriage, personally. I love God so much that it moves me to love and respect my spouse  when it is a choice I have to make rather than a natural reaction. If the way you love God does not change the way that you love your spouse, then I wonder how much you love either of them. Ask God to help you reflect love to your spouse in reverence to your love for Him.

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‘You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way.’ Song of Songs 4:7(NLT)

Compliment your spouse every day.

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Flood your spouse with compliments. Build them up publicly and privately . Let them know that you are focused on them and that you see the best in them. It will not only edify them, but watch how it does the same for you. Personally, we are big fans of compliments in our own marriage. It just feels good to be complimented, and also to compliment. For instance, if you wake up and you think your spouse is looking good, tell them. If your spouse cooks an awesome dinner, let them know how good it tasted. If your spouse does something to your home that makes it look a little homier, tell them how they added such a nice touch. If your spouse works hard to provide for your family, let them know that you are so thankful for their hard work. If your spouse has great integrity, let them know how proud you are of them for that characteristic. Compliments are refreshing, and we don’t believe that you can give too many! 

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‘The faithful love of the Lord never ends! His mercies never cease. Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning.’ Lamentations 3:22-23(NLT)

It is not like Christ to keep bringing up mistakes and failures from the past. It is however, like Satan.

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Jesus takes delight in you. He loves you! His mercies are new every morning. He embraces you today. Satan, however, reminds you of all the times you’ve messed up and he tries to haunt you with the past. Satan brings up your mistakes and tries to make you feel ashamed and unworthy. It is so important to ask yourself who you are reflecting in your marriage. Are you embracing today with your spouse, or are you focused on what went wrong yesterday? Ask God each morning to help you reflect His love and forgiveness in your marriage.

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‘He went inside and asked, “Why all this commotion and weeping? The child isn’t dead; she’s only asleep.” The crowd laughed at him. But he made them all leave, and he took the girl’s father and mother and his three disciples into the room where the girl was lying. Holding her hand, he said to her, “Talitha koum,” which means “Little girl, get up!” And the girl, who was twelve years old, immediately stood up and walked around! They were overwhelmed and totally amazed. Jesus gave them strict orders not to tell anyone what had happened, and then he told them to give her something to eat.’ Mark 5:39-43(NLT)

If you can’t think of a single reason to stay with your spouse, remember that Jesus went to the Cross for you when you were useless to Him. He kept His covenant with you when you didn’t give Him a single reason to.

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Do you feel like your marriage is hanging on by its last strand? Like the rope that once held you together has unraveled, and you are not sure how much longer it will hold? Despite what you may think, or what Satan may be telling you, it is not a lost cause! We serve a God of restoration and redemption. Stop looking at that unraveled rope and gaze upon our miracle working God. If there are people in your life speaking negativity over your marriage and pointing your attention to the unraveled rope, it’s time to remind them, and yourself, that if Jesus can resurrect a dead person, He can resurrect a dead marriage. God loves you and He loves your marriage. He longs to see unity in your marriage even more than you do. Your marriage is not a joke to Him and is not something He takes lightly. Hang in there and cling to God’s word and His faithfulness. He is fighting for your marriage. 

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‘Come, everyone! Clap your hands! Shout to God with joyful praise! For the Lord Most High is awesome. He is the great King of all the earth. He subdues the nations before us, putting our enemies beneath our feet. He chose the Promised Land as our inheritance, the proud possession of Jacob’s descendants, whom he loves. Interlude God has ascended with a mighty shout. The Lord has ascended with trumpets blaring. Sing praises to God, sing praises; sing praises to our King, sing praises! For God is the King over all the earth. Praise him with a psalm. God reigns above the nations, sitting on his holy throne. The rulers of the world have gathered together with the people of the God of Abraham. For all the kings of the earth belong to God. He is highly honored everywhere.’ Psalms 47:1-9(NLT)

One thing we have learned is that it is really fun to be super silly with each other. To laugh and to cause laughter. But most of all to choose joy when Satan is screaming the opposite.

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Today is the day to dance in the kitchen. To go on a walk and call a race to the next stop sign. To have fun! Today is the day to choose joy. Satan is always trying to get us offended, fearful, stressed out, worried, and anything else that will pull us away from enjoying time with our spouse. But it is so necessary as children of God to rest in His promises and enjoy every day life. God is good, and we can count on Him to take care of things that we can’t. Choose joy today because your hope is in God. Don’t look at circumstances, look at your spouse and most of all look at your God. Remember that today is a blessing and make it a good one. 

Choose joy today!

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‘Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, “I will confess my rebellion to the Lord .” And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone. Interlude’ Psalms 32:5(NLT)

There should never be anything you have to hide from your spouse. You, and everything you do, should be an open book to them.

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You should be someone that your spouse can completely trust 100% with no reservation. There should be nothing in the dark corners of your mind that aren’t brought into the light before your spouse and God. There should be nothing that you feel needs to be hidden. If there is, it’s probably because Satan has convinced you that it should be, because breakthrough is on the other side of your honesty. The truth isn’t always easy to accept or to confess, but it is always worth it. Let today be the day that if there is anything hidden, it is brought into the light. Ask God to lead you and help you live a life with no secrecy in your marriage. Gut level honesty brings a sense of freedom to be who you are and to feel accepted and loved. 

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‘For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord . “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. ‘ Jeremiah 29:11(NLT)

The future is a stranger, but if the two of you focus on the One who holds your future then neither of you will have to worry about what it may hold. 

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Fear… Whew… Fear is such a liar yet is sometimes so easy to believe. It is so easy to freak out when the finances don’t amount to the bills. Or when a loved one is really sick. Or when the car breaks down. Or when ________… You fill in the blank. There are so many different circumstances and situations that pull us towards fear. Fear is always trying to creep its way into our lives and into our marriages. However, we serve a God that is far more worthy of our attention and energy than those lies that are trying to cripple us and put strains on our marriages. Today is the day to turn your worry into praise and thank God that you have nothing to worry about. Thank Him that you can literally trust Him with everything, and tell Satan that you’re not buying his lies. 

If fear tries to stress you out today, before you allow it to control you, ask yourself if God is stressed out about it. He isn’t, because He already has a plan. 

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‘We love each other because he loved us first.’ 1 John 4:19(NLT)

Do you put effort into being sweet, kind, patient, soft toned, etc.? If not, maybe you should try it today and the rest of your days. 

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What does your spouse love? Coffee? Tea? Hamburgers? Tacos? Walks? Board games? Take note of those things and go out of your way for them. Fix them a cup of coffee. Take a walk with them. Choose a something to do that shows them that you care, and that your relationship is not based on convenience but rather on the fact that you desire to serve them. Kindness isn’t always convenient, but it’s always worth it… especially in marriage. Hold hands in the car. Give a kiss when you arrive, another when you’re leaving, and many in between. Give a long hug. Give a massage. Be present. 

How can you go out of your way to be kind today? 

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‘Turn away from evil and do good. Search for peace, and work to maintain it.’ Psalms 34:14(NLT)

If you see a problem in your marriage, you don’t stop participating in your marriage, you stop participating in the problem.

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Sometimes it is easy to draw back and not communicate when we are frustrated with our spouse. It’s easy to listen to that little voice telling us, “Well I’m just not going to talk because ______.” You fill in the blank. However, speaking up and having those hard conversations is sometimes the key to not having the same frustration about the same situation again. If you want to read 1 Corinthians 13 before approaching your spouse about something that is bothering you, do it. But don’t dust it under the rug and hope that it cleans itself up. Have the attitude that you will do whatever it takes and have whatever conversation that needs to be had before you allow it to keep your marriage from thriving and being at it’s full potential.

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