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‘The eyes of the Lord watch over those who do right, and his ears are open to their prayers. But the Lord turns his face against those who do evil.”’ 1 Peter 3:12(NLT)

I hope you’ve prayed for your spouse more times than you’ve gotten frustrated with them this week.

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When we were at our worst, Jesus prayed for us. When our sin had Jesus crucified, He looked up to heaven and said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing (Luke 23:34).” Can we just close our eyes and take ten seconds to soak that in? You guys, that’s love. He could’ve been mad, He could’ve cursed us, He could have climbed off of that Cross, but He didn’t. He prayed for us. Why? Because He loves us. He has a covenant with us that means more to Him than our sinful choices. He didn’t lash out at us and tell us how bad we are or how much we had just messed up, He prayed for us. This. This is the most faithful display of love. When your spouse frustrates you, how do you react? I think we can all work on trying to react a little more like Jesus. With prayer. God help us! Amen!

Ask God to help you in times of frustration to reflect Jesus. 

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‘Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth. ‘ Colossians 3:2(NLT)

You will never be happy in your marriage until you choose to focus on God rather than all the things that bother you.

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Whew y’all… it’s so true that sometimes we tend to focus on the negative. How our spouse said they would do something and then they forgot. How they said they would pay a bill and now there’s a late fee. Things happen, fingers are pointed, and then everyone is flustered. However, crying over spilled milk doesn’t clean it up or change the fact that it was spilt. Making it a habit of showing grace, rather than grumbling, will result in a lot more peace in your marriage. Learn from mistakes, have a conversation about them if it is necessary, but don’t dwell on them. Turn your attention to God and ask Him to help you show grace to your spouse the way that He shows grace to you.

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‘A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls.’ Proverbs 25:28(NLT)

You cannot control your spouse, so you must work at controlling yourself.

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We believe that one of the leading causes (if not the leading cause) of divorce is the lack of self-control. Not choosing to walk according to God’s word, but rather choosing to stumble according to the flesh. It’s selfishness. It’s an internal decision that the way you feel is more important than the truth of God’s Word. You can’t make your spouse’s decisions, but you can make your own and you can choose your reactions! Put less focus on trying to fix your spouse, and more on not allowing their decisions to waiver your commitment to Jesus. One of the best ways to influence your spouse to make Godly decisions is by making Godly decisions for yourself. 

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‘Those who look to him for help will be radiant with joy; no shadow of shame will darken their faces.’ Psalms 34:5(NLT)

Don’t treat your spouse the way that they treat you, instead treat your spouse the way that God treats you.

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Do you want your marriage to be beautiful? To feel like a breath of fresh air? To radiate love, joy, peace, and kindness? We believe that there is a way to have that. We believe that is the kind of marriage that is produced when a husband and a wife decide that their marriage has to be less about themselves, their feelings, and their desires and centrally based on Jesus. Based on reflecting His patience and character. Based on pleasing Him. Based on shining a light for His Kingdom. When God’s love shapes the way you love your spouse, rather than your spouses actions shaping the way that you love them, your marriage will be radiant. 

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‘The righteous person faces many troubles, but the Lord comes to the rescue each time.’ Psalms 34:19(NLT)

If you think your spouse is your biggest problem, then go take a look in the mirror.

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Your spouse is never your biggest problem. It’s that voice that may tell you that they are. Or that voice that may whisper that you’d be happier with someone else or better off alone. Or that voice that may whisper that your situation gives you the right to sin. Do not be deceived. Ask God to align your thoughts with His Word and His purpose for your marriage. Tell Satan to go to Hell and speak life over your marriage. Tell him he does not belong around you and he is not welcome in your marriage. Tell him to get out of your home and go back to his own. 

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‘Yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory he will reveal to us later. ‘ Romans 8:18(NLT)

The best kind of marriage is the kind where yesterday’s frustrations do not affect the quality of today.

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So many times, I’ve had to remind myself to “pick my battles.” I say that in my head quite often when Satan, or even my own flesh, tries to get me flustered about something that was done yesterday or something that was said months ago. Sometimes it is so tempting to bring up the past, but it is so not worth it. Not only because it puts a strain on your marriage but also because God never does that to us. Another thing I ask myself pretty often is “is it worth it?” Is it worth it to rob the moment or even the day of its joy because I am still thinking about that time__________? No, it’s not worth it. That’s one of those moments to let go and let God. That’s one of those moments to ask God to help me get that off of my mind and out of my system, and focus on all of the beauty and blessings I have with my spouse. That’s one of those moments to use my authority to tell Satan to get away from me in the name of Jesus. That’s an opportunity to remind him that he will not have his way in my marriage. Do not use the past as ammunition, leave it where it is, in the past. Thank God for today and show your spouse how thankful you are that you get to spend it with them.

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‘Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.’ Ephesians 4:32(NLT)

“I still love you.” That’s the character of God. 

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No matter what happened yesterday. No matter what was said or what was silent. No matter if forgiveness was sought after or not. His mercies are new every morning. He is always ready to forgive. Not based on your character, but because that is His character. That’s the example He set for us. He is always willing to forgive us and show us mercy. That’s the example we are to follow. 

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‘Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.’ Proverbs 4:23(NLT)

‘A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. ‘ Matthew 12:35(NLT)

The best thing I can do for my marriage is focus on God and His Word.

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I read this analogy one time that was talking about how what was inside is what will come out. They explained it using a coffee mug. They started out by asking this question, “If you were holding a coffee mug full of coffee and someone bumped into you, causing you to spill it — Why did you spill coffee?” The answer was that you spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your mug. Had there been hot chocolate, you would have spilled hot chocolate. Whatever was in the mug, is what you would have spilled. The analogy ended with this question, “So if life comes and shakes you — What will you spill? What’s in your mug?” That is such a good analogy. If you are consistently filling your mug with good and godly things, if you are persistent about getting God’s Word into your system, your marriage will be built on solid ground. Because those are the things that will surface when a storm shakes you.

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‘For the Scriptures say, “You must be holy because I am holy.”’ 1 Peter 1:16(NLT)

Be someone your spouse  can count on and trust.

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One way you can reflect God in your marriage is to keep your promises. God doesn’t break His promises based on your behavior and you shouldn’t break yours based on your spouse’s behavior. Look to God and ask Him to help you be a vow honoring spouse and protect you against any lie that Satan tries to tell you. He will always attempt to pull you away from the words that you said on your wedding day when the “worse” rolls around, but you said, “for better or worse.” Be determined to show your spouse that you meant it. 

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‘You are my rock and my fortress. For the honor of your name, lead me out of this danger. Pull me from the trap my enemies set for me, for I find protection in you alone.’ Psalms 31:3-4(NLT)

Nothing can wreak havoc in your marriage unless it is given more thought than prayer, and more attention than Jesus. 

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It seems like so many times the attention we put on a problem turns out to be a bigger problem than what we thought the actual problem was. How many times have you been so worried or stressed out about something, just for it to work out fine? I know I do that all the time. I get so worked up about how we’re gonna pay this or that, or how we’re gonna make it to two different places at once, and then it works out fine. Why do things seem to work out fine? Because I am a child of God and while I was freaking out, God was sorting things out for me. He had a plan for my problem! He had an answer for my anxiety. As children of God, we have no reason to stress or worry. As children of the Creator of time itself, we can trust His timing. As Children of the King of kings, worrying is wasted time. We are covered. We are held. We are cared for. We are loved. We have an almighty God that is willing and able to intercede for us in any circumstance or situation, and work it out for our good. If there is something in your marriage that is sucking the joy out of your live, or if there is something in your marriage that has set up a roadblock in your hope, speak truth over those things right now in the name of Jesus! It’s just a matter of time! God is for you! He has a plan! He has a purpose! He is good! He is faithful! Trust Him! 

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