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‘Then call on me when you are in trouble, and I will rescue you, and you will give me glory.”’ Psalms 50:15(NLT)

To be happily married, you must divorce pride, insecurities, impatience, the past, anger, bitterness, sin, and resentment many many times but never your spouse. 

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You guys, Satan is called the great deceiver, not because he is great in any way, but because he has been in the game for a long time. He knows when to step out and when to stand still. He is like a lion, prowling, lurking, waiting for a vulnerable moment to devour your marriage. It is so important to know that your marriage is on Satan’s hit list. Your marriage has a target on it. He hates you. He hates your marriage. And he hates God’s plan for your marriage. That is why it is so important to be intentional about standing on the Word of God! We as God’s Army always have to be on guard. We must be prepared to fight. We must call on the name of Jesus! We must lay our marriages in His hands! Because though our enemy is out for us, he is no match for our God. However, it’s up to us to cling to God through the valley or to fall for Satan’s falsified joy ride to the mountain top that leads to regret and heartbreak. Choose Jesus!

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‘And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. ‘ Romans 8:28(NLT)

It is not your job to fix your marriage. It is your job to love your spouse even when your marriage seems broken.

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It would be so easy, when things get hard, to just put your phone on silent, get in the car, and drive off. The reason we would never encourage that is because that gives Satan room to put your spouse in a state of torment. However, sometimes it is very important, when things get hard, to seclude yourself. To ask your spouse if you can just have a ten-minute break to get alone with Jesus. Jesus shows us how important that is many times in the Bible. He got away to pray. He got away to have time with God alone and give God room to speak. When there are broken moments, days, and even seasons in your marriage, put your attention on God and not on fixing your marriage. The key to a broken marriage is not your marriage being fixed, but your thoughts being fixed. Cling to God’s promises in the midst of confusion and what may seem like chaos and give God room to shape you and mold you through it. Maybe the real project God is working on not your marriage, but you. 

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‘The whole assembly agreed to this, for the people could see it was the right thing to do. So David summoned all Israel, from the Shihor Brook of Egypt in the south all the way to the town of Lebo-hamath in the north, to join in bringing the Ark of God from Kiriath-jearim. Then David and all Israel went to Baalah of Judah (also called Kiriath-jearim) to bring back the Ark of God, which bears the name of the Lord who is enthroned between the cherubim. They placed the Ark of God on a new cart and brought it from Abinadab’s house. Uzzah and Ahio were guiding the cart. David and all Israel were celebrating before God with all their might, singing songs and playing all kinds of musical instruments—lyres, harps, tambourines, cymbals, and trumpets. But when they arrived at the threshing floor of Nacon, the oxen stumbled, and Uzzah reached out his hand to steady the Ark. ‘ 1 Chronicles 13:4-9(NLT)

The most contagious thing that you will ever bring home to your family is your attitude. Make sure you are spreading something in your home that Jesus doesn’t have to heal. 

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We cannot afford to run out of patience before we see our spouse. We cannot afford to run out of grace before we see our spouse. We cannot afford to not be kind. We cannot afford to be snappy. We can’t afford to refuse affection. Why? Because those are the things that Satan is selling, and they will make your marriage go bankrupt. It is so important to bring home a good attitude to your spouse. It is so important that your spouse is not getting your leftovers. It is so important to reflect Jesus. Jesus is the easiest person to live with, so the more we become like Him, the more our home becomes a place of refuge and peace. Decide today that you are more than a conqueror through Christ and you can overcome a bad attitude for the sake of your marriage! 

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‘How great is the goodness you have stored up for those who fear you. You lavish it on those who come to you for protection, blessing them before the watching world.’ Psalms 31:19(NLT)

You may not have went into your marriage expecting it to turn out the way it is, but God did. Talk to Him about it. 

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Have you ever went into something expecting it to go one way, yet it went the opposite? As much as I hope that isn’t your marriage, but if it is you are not alone. I think this happens to a lot of people. You go into marriage so giddy and head over heels. The honeymoon stage is so fun. Then you get into a rhythm and the reality of work, family, and many other things get added into the mix. You get comfortable and some of the things that once made you so excited have seemed to fade out? That’s a normal place, but don’t settle for that. Ask God to restore that excitement. Ask Him to show you new ways to bless your spouse. Ask Him to bring your marriage to its full potential and to use you in any way that He can. Maybe it’s time to let some things go that were said or done in the past. Ask God to help you get rid of any filth that has built up in your mind that is keeping you from the intimacy you once had. God is willing and able to restore, you just have to decide not to settle for less. 

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‘This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!’ 2 Corinthians 5:17(NLT)

God, if I ever stop seeing my spouse the way that You do, please remove my hands from my eyes. 

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Sometimes it’s easy to see our spouse for the things they do rather than who they are. It’s easier to see their weaknesses than it is to see their strengths. It’s easier to see their stumbles than it is to see their strides. However, that is the opposite of how God looks at us. He sees us through the eyes of love. He sees the best in us, even in our worst seasons. He is our biggest fan. He is our greatest friend. The way He looks at us is how we should strive to see our spouse. An encourager, not a nagger. A forgiver, not one to hold a grudge. He is for us, not against us.

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‘So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. ‘ Galatians 6:9(NLT)

Even if your spouse isn’t doing as they should, you still should.

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One time I was at conference and the speaker was talking about how they had been in a dry season, and were having a hard time hearing the voice of God. They said that while they were in that season, since they weren’t sure what step to take next or what direction God was calling them in, the only thing they knew to do was to continue living according to God’s Word. To wake up every day in that season and say, “God, I give this day to you. Help me to live in a way that glorifies You.” I thought that was so powerful. That when we don’t know what to do, we can simply just do what is right. We can  continue to be faithful with our every moment. I love how the sermon ended, too. They said that in that season, one day they woke up and heard God so clearly say, “It’s over.” That day that season ended, and God started to take them in such a clear direction. Sometimes we go through seasons that aren’t fun, that aren’t enjoyable, and that are just down right hard, but we are still called to be faithful in the waiting. If you’re in one of those seasons, while you wait submit yourself to God, and choose to do the right thing.

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‘I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit.’ Romans 15:13(NLT)

Today is a good day to choose a good day.

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Sometimes good days don’t just come naturally. The morning is hectic, someone gets a flat tire, the power gets cut off, etc. Sometimes things happen that literally make us feel like the whole day was just awful. However, that doesn’t have to be the case! It does have to be a choice, though. Sometimes we are put in positions where we can either have a bad attitude about an unfortunate event, or we can thank God for all the blessings in our lives. Today is a good day to choose a good day. Not based on how the day goes, but based on the fact that God has been so good to you. Make today the day that you start trying to focus on your blessings rather than your circumstances. 

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‘But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, ‘ Galatians 5:22(NLT)

Your relationship with your spouse should not shape your relationship with God, but your relationship with God should shape your relationship with your spouse.

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How often do you stop and take a second to reflect before you react? How often do you pause to pray before you panic? As Christians, it is so important that we don’t dive headfirst into our feelings, because sometimes the way that we feel doesn’t lead us to saying or doing Godly things. For the sake of our love for God and our marriages, it is so important to take a minute to align our hearts and thoughts with God’s Word, so that we can respond to situations in ways that glorify Jesus. We need to begin asking God more often to make our hearts so in tune with Him that our actions follow His example and our thoughts are fixed on His ways. The more we focus on God, the more beautiful our marriages will be. 

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‘For you are my hiding place; you protect me from trouble. You surround me with songs of victory. Interlude’ Psalms 32:7(NLT)

God, please protect us from anything that could compromise our relationship with you or our spouse.

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Can you think of a time where something that shouldn’t have happened wouldn’t have happened had you not put yourself in a situation? I can think of many of those times for myself. Sometimes there are things that can easily be avoided just by simply avoiding a person, place, or thing. However, it is so important that we ask God for guidance. Ask God to help you avoid people, places, and things that wouldn’t honor your spouse and more importantly your love for Jesus and your thankfulness for the Cross. Do not compromise your relationship with your spouse or with God for something that Satan has dressed in temporary satisfaction, that in reality is just a heartbreak. 

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‘Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions. ‘ 1 John 3:18(NLT)

Before you waste time misunderstanding and miscommunicating — take time to understand and communicate.

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It is so easy to fall into the pit of a misunderstanding. We’ve done this so many times. You get offended by something that was said or done just because you didn’t take the time to understand. This often happened for us when our baby was a newborn. We were trying to correct each other constantly on how to handle her only to soon realize that was not benefiting our marriage in the least bit. Quite the opposite, actually. It was only leading to offense after offense. With that, we had to have a conversation about how we both realized what was going on and that it had to stop. The reality was that we were just trying to help each other, but at the same time not taking time to understand that we were both brand new at parenting and trying to figure things out. After we had that conversation, we began to see God start working in our marriage for the better. If there is something going on in your marriage that is causing offense after offense, take time today to have a conversation. It could just be a misunderstanding.

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