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“The Uniqueness of Christian Marriage Part 1”

‘And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.’ Ephesians 5:21(NLT)

What is unique about Christian marriage? I realize when it comes to marriage, when it comes to happy marriage, when it comes to meaningful marriage—for all of history in all kind of cultures, all kind of religions—you can have very meaningful and happy Hindu marriages and Muslim marriages and Buddhist marriages and agnostic marriages and atheistic marriages. You can have all kinds of ideologies and cultures represented all through history and find meaningful marriage. But what is really unique about Christian marriage? What is it that sets it apart from other marriages? It begins with a radically counter-cultural teaching in Scripture – “Be subject to one another in the fear of Christ.”

What is so radically difficult in the starting point of Christian marriage is this: Most of the time when you talk to an engaged couple, they’ll make a comment like, “He’s the man of my dreams. I know he is going to make me happy.” Or the young man says, “I know that she’s just what I’ve been looking for. I know that she is going to make me happy.” Do you see the inherent problem? The focus is all about “me.” But in a Christian marriage, it is just the opposite. God’s Word tells us to be subject to one another. (That’s actually a military term.) To be “subject to” means to come under the authority of the other. In other words, the husband and wife are to be mutually submissive to one another. How? It comes out of a mutual reverence for Christ. “Fear of Christ” means “reverence for Christ.” None of us can come close to living this out because we are such sinners. But Christ saves us from our sinfulness and gives us the ability to seek the best interest for our spouse before our own.

Yes, there are differing roles in Christian marriages for the husband and the wife (and we’ll get to that tomorrow), but the starting point of mutual submission is the reverence for Christ. And that is radically counter-cultural. Here’s what is really awesome – it makes true Christian marriages the marriages we all want to have!

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“The First Surgeon”

‘Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” So the Lord God formed from the ground all the wild animals and all the birds of the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would call them, and the man chose a name for each one. He gave names to all the livestock, all the birds of the sky, and all the wild animals. But still there was no helper just right for him. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. ‘ Genesis 2:18-21(NLT)

Did you know that God was the first surgeon? After God created Adam, He gave him a beautiful place to live, plenty to eat, and tons of pets. Amazingly, they all lived in perfect harmony with each other and with him, as well. But God looked at Adam and decided it wasn’t good for man to be alone. So, being the first anesthesiologist, He put Adam into a deep sleep, and being the first surgeon, He removed a rib from Adam’s side and He created woman to be Adam’s partner, a helpmate. Do you see what the Lord was doing? Then He became the first father of the bride. He brought Eve to Adam! Thus, God was also the first matchmaker and He’s still the best one today.

Then our super creative God gave Adam and Eve the first opportunity to enjoy His gift and the invention of sex. God’s Word says, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become ONE FLESH.” Wow. God is pretty amazing. One man. One woman. For life.

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“The First Marriage”

‘So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. ‘ Genesis 2:21(NLT)

There were a lot of ‘firsts’ while God was creating the world and its inhabitants. Well, I suppose you could say everything He created was a first! But now, I’m talking about what happened as He created Adam and Eve.

When He put Adam into a deep sleep, God became the first anesthesiologist. Then, as He operated on Adam, He became the first surgeon. Now, we already know that God was the first artist – in fact, He is the master Artist – the master Designer. After all, He had created the heavens and the earth and everything on it and in between, including man. But He had never fashioned (built) a woman. So, there was another first. And because He had created Adam and Eve so that they were perfect for each other, we could say God was the first matchmaker. And to finish it off, He was the first Father of the bride, as He brought Eve to Adam.

How did Adam respond? He was thrilled! He said, “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man.” He broke out into poetry! These were the first romantic words in all of history! Adam knew right away that she was exactly what was missing from his life. We see the sense of appreciation that Adam has as God brings Eve to him. Here we see the very first marriage. Here we see what God designed it to be – the ultimate human companionship between a man and a woman.

It’s a beautiful story of love at first sight. The only perfect marriage in the history of man. And then came sin and with it, the problems in marriage. It continues to this day; yet, in Christ, we are able to see Him strengthen in a way that transforms marriage for good. Not perfect, but closer to what Adam and Eve had before they blew it. If you are struggling in your marriage, why don’t you let Jesus transform you? Both of you!

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I Want More of You, God

‘A single day in your courts is better than a thousand anywhere else! I would rather be a gatekeeper in the house of my God than live the good life in the homes of the wicked.’ Psalms 84:10(NLT)

It was a few years after Harold’s Everest climb when he and I (Rachel) were lying on the couch talking about our future. He looked at me and asked me what I am passionate about. Without hesitation I said, “Jesus.” After that we sat in silence for some time.

I don’t think my answer was what he was expecting—it wasn’t even what I was expecting. Harold is not only a very big dreamer but also a doer. When he has a dream he will do everything in his power to see it through. 

While I’ve always had lots of hobbies and love experiencing new things, I’ve never really had something that sets me on fire, that fills me with an overwhelming sense of purpose. I didn’t grow up dreaming of one specific route for my life. Even now I sometimes think, Should I be pursing something greater? Did I miss opportunities because I was crippled by fear? How can I accomplish my goals if I’m not really sure what they are? 

Then I realize that I do know my goals. They may not be goals that make me successful in our world but I am okay with that. My goals are to bring people to Jesus, to live my life with love and be ready and willing for God to use me whenever He chooses. I have passion, and I have drive, and more importantly, I have a great God who can and will use me. And that’s enough.

Whether we dream of climbing Mt. Everest or starting a business or raising a family, only God can truly satisfy us. He uses our longings to shape us, to reveal His unique gifts in our lives. But ultimately our prayers come down to, I want more of you, God.

As we wrap up this week’s devotional, we challenge you to live out boldly the dreams God has put on your heart, whatever they are. When our prayer is for more of Jesus, God will give us the courage for every calling in front of us.

from A Higher Calling by Harold & Rachel Earls

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When Doubt Creeps In

‘For the word of God will never fail. ”’ Luke 1:37(NLT)

As we continued our long-planned journey, I (Harold) downplayed my fears and nerves when I talked with Rachel. I told her things like “It’s not too scary” and “It’s really pretty” and “I’m not too worried about it.” Those were half-truths. In reality, that towering beast in front of us was the meanest, blackest thing I’d ever seen. I was worried, and I was humbled. I could share this with her, my best friend and biggest supporter. But I wanted to protect her from the knot in my stomach, the nerves constantly rumbling inside, and the nagging questions: What am I doing? and What have I left behind? 

Have you ever come to a point in your life when the one thing you’ve been working toward suddenly seems insurmountable? A moment when your own personal Everest (be it creating a business, parenting, seeking healing from your past, or something else) stares you down, looking bigger and scarier than you ever could have imagined? A time when you feel intimidated and alone? A time in which you suddenly begin to question everything?

That’s what I was doing in Tibet, asking over and over again, Have I bitten off more than I can chew?

I know life sometimes presents moments that feel impossible. But I also know when you overcome these challenges, you come out with an even greater faith. 

The Bible tells us, “Nothing is impossible with God” (Luke 1:37). Nothing! If you’re facing doubts right now about the Everest in front of you, spend some time studying God’s character. Write down words that the Bible uses to describe Him. I guarantee when you look up at that mountain again, it will seem small compared to the God who never leaves you.

from A Higher Calling by Harold & Rachel Earls

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Faith Over Fear

‘Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love. ‘ 1 John 4:18(NLT)

I (Rachel) supported Harold’s choice to follow his dream and climb Everest to raise awareness for soldiers recovering from PTSD. At the same time, I was terrified of something happening to him.

We hadn’t been married a full year when Harold and his team set off on their trek. I stayed in touch as closely as I could when they were on the mountain. After one particular call from Mount Everest’s Advanced Base Camp, Harold had sounded exhausted as he told me about the significant snowstorm headed his way, forcing his team to climb back down to a lower elevation. I knew with bad weather conditions, a tired body, and many hours of descending in low visibility, the chances of something going wrong were significantly higher. 

I couldn’t help but wonder, Is my husband making a bad decision—perhaps a fatal one? I didn’t know when I’d hear from him next, if at all. 

I was trying to be strong, but deep down, I was afraid of being left alone. I feared that if something did happen, I would blame Harold for making the choice to leave. Or I’d blame myself for letting him go.

Every day he was gone, I realized how precious and fragile life is and what truly matters. It’s not the material things, the success, the money, or our physical appearances. It’s the people we love. 

The little moments count. 

Living with that truth in the forefront of your mind changes you. It’s changing me. I am starting to approach life with an attitude of thanksgiving, even in the midst of my trials. I realize my time with Harold is limited, and time is better spent being joyful and living in love rather than living in anger, frustration, or stress. I remind myself something I have told others: You are capable of more than you can imagine. And with God by your side, you will always come out stronger! 

What can you do so that fear won’t write your story? What choices can you make so that circumstances won’t control your joy? It’s our love for others that makes us afraid of losing them, yet the Bible tells us that “there is no fear in love,” and love actually drives out fear (1 John 4:18). What would it look like, right now, to choose faith over fear as you pray for those you love?

from A Higher Calling by Harold & Rachel Earls

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Small Beginnings

‘Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin, to see the plumb line in Zerubbabel’s hand.” (The seven lamps represent the eyes of the Lord that search all around the world.)’ Zechariah 4:10(NLT)

When Rachel and I started talking about my sense that God was calling me to climb Everest, I told her I’d already done some research—that is, I had Googled “climbing Everest.”

I wondered, How much does it cost? Have any soldiers done it? When is the best time to climb? Those questions caused me to think, Can I put together an Army team? How incredible would that be? Is it even possible for an Army Soldier to do it? 

I started emailing anybody and everybody who might have an interest in helping me make this dream a reality. I didn’t know which direction to head, so I just sent out a shotgun blast in every direction to see what got traction. 

One of the biggest obstacles people encounter once they decide to go after their dreams is not knowing how to start. Are you ready for the answer? Make a move, any move at all. It doesn’t matter how big or small. Just do it. Take ten minutes and start doing something to make your dream happen; chances are you won’t stop after just ten minutes. The sheer fact of starting makes it easier to continue because you’re no longer staring at a blank slate. 

The Bible even talks about this truth in Zechariah 4:10: “Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin.” God loves it when you take even a small step out in faith.

Now, say you take your first step, but you don’t go anywhere. Then what? Well, now it’s easier to take the second step because at least you know where not to step. Keep going until something works. It’s all about momentum. Once you get the ball moving, it’s easier to steer it where you want it to go. With Everest, I knew only the end state I was aiming for; all the stuff in between I figured out by trial and error. 

Today, think about what move you could make toward living out your calling. Even if it is a “small beginning,” God will honor your courage and give you momentum to keep going.

from A Higher Calling by Harold & Rachel Earls

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God’s Dreams for You

‘This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”’ Joshua 1:9(NLT)

I (Harold) remember it like yesterday. I was lying in bed at West Point, daydreaming and looking over my bucket list. Close to the top was “Become an American Soldier.” 

When I was young, we would go on family vacations to Washington, D.C., and visit the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier. Seeing those soldiers in uniform and learning about the selfless service the Unknown Soldier represented inspired me. So much so that in sixth grade, when given the prompt “Write About Your Hero,” my answer was obvious: an American Soldier. Since I would be commissioned as an Army officer when I graduated, I was almost ready to check this off the list. 

Also on my list: “Play baseball at West Point.” I could check that one off! While I didn’t write them down, the two most important items on my mental list were “Get married” and “Have a family.” One of those items was soon to have a check mark too. 

In bold at the very top of my list was “Climb Mount Everest.” As my eyes focused on this line item, I didn’t think about my zero climbing experience, nor that I was from the great state of Georgia, where our tallest mountain stands fewer than five thousand feet. But suddenly, I couldn’t get climbing Everest out of my head, even though I had always hated the cold and was terrible at running hills during PT in the Army. 

I knew it wasn’t a mountain for the inexperienced. It is a deadly beast. Although I would need a lot of training, I wanted to put myself in that extreme environment—in the death zone—to see what I was truly made of. I wanted to try to beat the thing I’m weakest at, and that’s why Everest was number one on my list. It was a mind-consuming idea that I just couldn’t ignore. 

I had an unshakable feeling God was speaking to me, and that burning desire only became stronger whenever I thought of Everest. I knew I had to go. 

So, what’s on your bucket list? Is God is speaking to you now through a desire to do something that doesn’t make sense on an earthly level? Spend some time in God’s Word, focused on Joshua 1:9. How would truly believing that God is with you give you courage to step out in faith?

from A Higher Calling by Harold & Rachel Earls

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The Way to Financial Well-Being

‘O Lord , you have examined my heart and know everything about me. You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I’m far away. You see me when I travel and when I rest at home. You know everything I do. You know what I am going to say even before I say it, Lord . You go before me and follow me. You place your hand of blessing on my head. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too great for me to understand! I can never escape from your Spirit! I can never get away from your presence! If I go up to heaven, you are there; if I go down to the grave, you are there. If I ride the wings of the morning, if I dwell by the farthest oceans, even there your hand will guide me, and your strength will support me. I could ask the darkness to hide me and the light around me to become night— but even in darkness I cannot hide from you. To you the night shines as bright as day. Darkness and light are the same to you. You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand! And when I wake up, you are still with me!’ Psalms 139:1-18(NLT)

The way to financial well-being is a returning home to your deepest sense of self, which is rooted and nurtured in God’s love. So much financial teaching begins from the outside and sometimes works its way in. If you’ve made it this far, you’ve started the journey of tending to this aspect of your interior life. You’ve discovered a little more about who you are and how God has designed you. Now you can start to see beyond the traditional notions that people must fit a specific money mold and that there is only one right way to think and feel about finances. The way you relate to money stems from the way you relate to God, from the unique way you are God-wired to encounter the world and its resources.

Understanding that it is God who has designed you to think, feel, and act the way you do financially gives you the courage to embrace your type, while continually growing and maturing in how you relate to God and money. Once you’ve embraced your own type, you’ll create space for others to be who they are, and you’ll be positioned to understand them and relate to them in a way that enhances your own, and their own, financial well-being.

You’re free to embrace your money type when you understand that no one type is better than another, and that God designed each type. This realization gives you permission to listen to your own financial thoughts, emotions, and actions and discern how God has designed you and may want you to grow in your relationship to money.

Financial well-being is within your reach as you grow in your money type. You can possess the confidence and insight necessary to handle money in a God-honoring way that’s true to your deepest sense of self and healthy in emotional, spiritual, and relational ways. Embrace your money type as a core component of your identity, as a sacred aspect of who you understand yourself to be—a God-imaged person who is God’s partner in stewarding resources, loving others, and bringing hope into the world.

from The Seven Money Types

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David: Leadership

‘The Philistines now mustered their army for battle and camped between Socoh in Judah and Azekah at Ephes-dammim. Saul countered by gathering his Israelite troops near the valley of Elah. So the Philistines and Israelites faced each other on opposite hills, with the valley between them. Then Goliath, a Philistine champion from Gath, came out of the Philistine ranks to face the forces of Israel. He was over nine feet tall! He wore a bronze helmet, and his bronze coat of mail weighed 125 pounds. He also wore bronze leg armor, and he carried a bronze javelin on his shoulder. The shaft of his spear was as heavy and thick as a weaver’s beam, tipped with an iron spearhead that weighed 15 pounds. His armor bearer walked ahead of him carrying a shield. Goliath stood and shouted a taunt across to the Israelites. “Why are you all coming out to fight?” he called. “I am the Philistine champion, but you are only the servants of Saul. Choose one man to come down here and fight me! If he kills me, then we will be your slaves. But if I kill him, you will be our slaves! I defy the armies of Israel today! Send me a man who will fight me!” When Saul and the Israelites heard this, they were terrified and deeply shaken.
Jesse Sends David to Saul’s Camp
Now David was the son of a man named Jesse, an Ephrathite from Bethlehem in the land of Judah. Jesse was an old man at that time, and he had eight sons. Jesse’s three oldest sons—Eliab, Abinadab, and Shimea —had already joined Saul’s army to fight the Philistines. David was the youngest son. David’s three oldest brothers stayed with Saul’s army, but David went back and forth so he could help his father with the sheep in Bethlehem. For forty days, every morning and evening, the Philistine champion strutted in front of the Israelite army. One day Jesse said to David, “Take this basket of roasted grain and these ten loaves of bread, and carry them quickly to your brothers. And give these ten cuts of cheese to their captain. See how your brothers are getting along, and bring back a report on how they are doing. ” David’s brothers were with Saul and the Israelite army at the valley of Elah, fighting against the Philistines. So David left the sheep with another shepherd and set out early the next morning with the gifts, as Jesse had directed him. He arrived at the camp just as the Israelite army was leaving for the battlefield with shouts and battle cries. Soon the Israelite and Philistine forces stood facing each other, army against army. David left his things with the keeper of supplies and hurried out to the ranks to greet his brothers. As he was talking with them, Goliath, the Philistine champion from Gath, came out from the Philistine ranks. Then David heard him shout his usual taunt to the army of Israel. As soon as the Israelite army saw him, they began to run away in fright. “Have you seen the giant?” the men asked. “He comes out each day to defy Israel. The king has offered a huge reward to anyone who kills him. He will give that man one of his daughters for a wife, and the man’s entire family will be exempted from paying taxes!” David asked the soldiers standing nearby, “What will a man get for killing this Philistine and ending his defiance of Israel? Who is this pagan Philistine anyway, that he is allowed to defy the armies of the living God?” And these men gave David the same reply. They said, “Yes, that is the reward for killing him.” But when David’s oldest brother, Eliab, heard David talking to the men, he was angry. “What are you doing around here anyway?” he demanded. “What about those few sheep you’re supposed to be taking care of? I know about your pride and deceit. You just want to see the battle!” “What have I done now?” David replied. “I was only asking a question!” He walked over to some others and asked them the same thing and received the same answer. Then David’s question was reported to King Saul, and the king sent for him.
David Kills Goliath
“Don’t worry about this Philistine,” David told Saul. “I’ll go fight him!” “Don’t be ridiculous!” Saul replied. “There’s no way you can fight this Philistine and possibly win! You’re only a boy, and he’s been a man of war since his youth.” But David persisted. “I have been taking care of my father’s sheep and goats,” he said. “When a lion or a bear comes to steal a lamb from the flock, I go after it with a club and rescue the lamb from its mouth. If the animal turns on me, I catch it by the jaw and club it to death. I have done this to both lions and bears, and I’ll do it to this pagan Philistine, too, for he has defied the armies of the living God! The Lord who rescued me from the claws of the lion and the bear will rescue me from this Philistine!” Saul finally consented. “All right, go ahead,” he said. “And may the Lord be with you!” Then Saul gave David his own armor—a bronze helmet and a coat of mail. David put it on, strapped the sword over it, and took a step or two to see what it was like, for he had never worn such things before. “I can’t go in these,” he protested to Saul. “I’m not used to them.” So David took them off again. He picked up five smooth stones from a stream and put them into his shepherd’s bag. Then, armed only with his shepherd’s staff and sling, he started across the valley to fight the Philistine. Goliath walked out toward David with his shield bearer ahead of him, sneering in contempt at this ruddy-faced boy. “Am I a dog,” he roared at David, “that you come at me with a stick?” And he cursed David by the names of his gods. “Come over here, and I’ll give your flesh to the birds and wild animals!” Goliath yelled. David replied to the Philistine, “You come to me with sword, spear, and javelin, but I come to you in the name of the Lord of Heaven’s Armies—the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. Today the Lord will conquer you, and I will kill you and cut off your head. And then I will give the dead bodies of your men to the birds and wild animals, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel! And everyone assembled here will know that the Lord rescues his people, but not with sword and spear. This is the Lord ’s battle, and he will give you to us!” As Goliath moved closer to attack, David quickly ran out to meet him. Reaching into his shepherd’s bag and taking out a stone, he hurled it with his sling and hit the Philistine in the forehead. The stone sank in, and Goliath stumbled and fell face down on the ground. So David triumphed over the Philistine with only a sling and a stone, for he had no sword. Then David ran over and pulled Goliath’s sword from its sheath. David used it to kill him and cut off his head.
Israel Routs the Philistines
When the Philistines saw that their champion was dead, they turned and ran. Then the men of Israel and Judah gave a great shout of triumph and rushed after the Philistines, chasing them as far as Gath and the gates of Ekron. The bodies of the dead and wounded Philistines were strewn all along the road from Shaaraim, as far as Gath and Ekron. Then the Israelite army returned and plundered the deserted Philistine camp. (David took the Philistine’s head to Jerusalem, but he stored the man’s armor in his own tent.) As Saul watched David go out to fight the Philistine, he asked Abner, the commander of his army, “Abner, whose son is this young man?” “I really don’t know,” Abner declared. “Well, find out who he is!” the king told him. As soon as David returned from killing Goliath, Abner brought him to Saul with the Philistine’s head still in his hand. “Tell me about your father, young man,” Saul said. And David replied, “His name is Jesse, and we live in Bethlehem.”’ 1 Samuel 17:1-58(NLT)

The way of David is leadership. David types, with their formidable sense of destiny and intense passion, are able to inspire others to action, instilling them with confidence like David instilled in others upon defeating Goliath. David types are leaders at whatever they do, ranging from professional to more personal engagements, from the boardroom to the schoolyard to the athletic field. Any type can lead when it comes to money, but David types have a distinct ability to see the big picture. They possess a clear sense of why something is worth pursuing, and they align resources toward action.

In leadership roles, David types elicit followers because their goals are inspirational and inclusive; they cast a clear vision and welcome others to pursue it with them. Their financial visions and goals inspire followership and financial engagement because they appeal to a shared interest, not simply to a vision or goal that improves the leader’s life alone. David types help others see why financial contribution toward a goal is worth investing their personal resources.

David types are inclined toward the future, toward what is possible. Like David, whose life reveals that he possessed a strong sense of destiny, David types resist satisfaction with situations as they are, figuring out how to make incremental tweaks. Rather, David types explore and invent brand-new futures. They’re blue-sky, big-time visionaries who spend far more time imagining what’s next than focusing on what’s happening right now. They set ambitious goals for their future, and they’re rarely satisfied with life as it is. David types break new ground on a regular basis—they’re always leaning toward the future, toward new possibilities. They tend to be singularly focused and highly driven.

Next, you’ll learn about the way to financial well-being.

from The Seven Money Types