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The Helmet of Salvation

‘Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.’ 1 Corinthians 6:19-20(NLT)

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 NASB

“Unity occurs when we combine our unique differences together as we head toward a common goal. It is the sense that the thing that we are gathered for and moving toward is bigger than our own individual preferences.” Tony Evans

Lord, through Christ’s death and resurrection, You provided me with salvation for eternity. Jesus laid down His life so that my eternal salvation would be secured. You bought me with a price through the sacrifice of Your Son. Because of this truth, I exist to glorify You with my life. So does my spouse. We are not our own. Our purpose is to bring You glory through our choices, words and the state of our hearts.

Help us to relinquish our will and rights to having our own way in order to honor You in unity together. Give us the bigger picture of Your kingdom and remind us of our greatest purpose which is to glorify You. Disunity is rebellion because disunity sets my desires and will above Yours. Disunity says I lay claim to my life, my body and my choices with no regard to Christ’s sacrifice and Your gift of salvation through the forgiveness of sins.

Unity reflects hearts of surrender under You, Lord, which is what Your Word says we are to do based on Christ’s redemption of us. Give us this reminder when things are disunified in our marriage, and enable us to overcome the challenges we face in order that we might unify our hearts in alignment under You. In Christ’s name, amen.

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The Shield of Faith

‘Just as our bodies have many parts and each part has a special function, so it is with Christ’s body. We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other.’ Romans 12:4-5(NLT)

For just as we have many members in one body and all the members do not have the same function, so we, who are many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. Romans 12:4-5 NASB

“Unity does not mean uniformity or sameness. Unity means oneness of purpose. Just as the Godhead is made up of three distinct Persons—the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit—each unique in personhood, yet at the same time one in essence, unity reflects a oneness that does not negate individuality.” Tony Evans

Dear God, my spouse and I have some things in common but we also have a number of differences. These come in a variety of places—You know them all. Sometimes they are okay for us to handle, but other times it gets frustrating. When I do get frustrated, I lose faith that it is even possible to be unified when we are so obviously different. But You didn’t say we had to be the same to be unified. Rather, our unity should reflect what Paul wrote in Romans that the members of Your body do not have the same function, but they are still one body and members of each other.

It is easier to understand unity and to have faith that we can obtain it when I understand that You are not calling me to be like my spouse, but rather to be like-minded with my spouse, under You.

Where our spiritual perspectives and life views differ, please unify us under Your truth. As we align our thoughts, beliefs and values under You, we will naturally be more unified with each other.

Also, Father, help us to enjoy and allow each other’s differences within the unique personalities You have chosen to give us. Provide the insight we need to understand that unity does not mean we have to like the same music, events or TV shows, but rather, unity means our minds, thoughts, joint purposes and morals need to be aligned under Your Word. When we live in faith trusting in Your Word, we will be unified. In Christ’s name, amen.

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The Shoes of Peace

‘Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. ‘ Ephesians 4:3(NLT)

Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.
Ephesians 4:3 NIV

“Many husbands and wives work as a team to provide for the emotional, spiritual and overall needs of their family. How beautiful it is when they bring that sense of teamwork home and model it for their children and for others in their spheres of influence.” Tony Evans

Lord, unity takes effort. If it didn’t, Paul wouldn’t have written what he did to the church at Ephesus. He told them to “make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit.” Forgive us as a couple when we feel entitled to unity from our spouse simply because we are married. Forgive me when I expect my spouse to get on the same page with me when I think I am in the right.

Unity takes effort. Effort comes in the form of humility, listening, grace, understanding, patience and also wisdom. Provide me with these virtues in a greater measure so that I can do my part to work toward keeping the unity in our marriage. Provide the same to my spouse, and help us both to respond to each other with peace when the other has neglected these things. Let that peace be a reminder that our unity is a critical tool in Your hands to advance Your kingdom and to bring about Your purpose for us. In Christ’s name, amen.

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The Breastplate of Righteousness

‘Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose.’ Philippians 2:2(NLT)

…make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose. Philippians 2:2 NASB

“Marriage is a sacred covenant not just a social contract. God promised to bless the male and female and their offspring if they faithfully functioned in accordance with His rule.” Tony Evans

Father, Your blessings and favor are critical for our marriage to reach Your intended destiny for us. Yet Your blessings and favor don’t come automatically to us simply because we are married. We seek them by living, thinking and loving according to Your established plan. Help us to view our marriage as more than a relationship to bring each of us pleasure or to satisfy our needs. Help us to view it as the sacred covenant You intended it to be. When we view marriage through Your lens and with Your perspective, it will motivate and inspire us to live in greater unity than we experience right now.

We ask that where it is our place to bend, grow or be united with each other on a deeper level that You will give us the desire and ability to do so. Please also provide the ability and willingness for that to happen. When we function together being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, and intent on Your purpose, we will be fulfilling Your kingdom agenda for our home. That is my prayer for us as a couple. In Christ’s name, amen.

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The Belt of Truth

‘and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, ‘ Mark 10:8(NLT)

‘I am in them and you are in me. May they experience such perfect unity that the world will know that you sent me and that you love them as much as you love me. ‘ John 17:23(NLT)

The two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Mark 10:8 NIV

“One of the elements of God’s rule is His heart for oneness, also known as unity. Unity can be defined in its simplest of terms as oneness of purpose. It is working together in harmony toward a shared vision and goal.”  Tony Evans

Dear Lord, unity in our marriage is about so much more than just agreeing on things. Your Word tells us that our unity actually reflects You to others. Our disunity reveals how far we are from You in our spiritual lives and character. Help us to keep a mindset of unity that is tied to the truth in Your Word, rather than view our decisions and disagreements as competition of thoughts and will.

Jesus described the purpose of unity when He said, “I in them and You in Me, that they may be perfected in unity, so that the world may know that You sent Me, and loved them, even as You have loved Me,” (John 17:23). Unity is our way of sharing and validating Your love not only for Christ and that You sent Him, but also for all of us.

Jesus said we are “perfected in unity.” That being so, we are far from perfected when we quarrel or hold strong to our own desires or decisions, with no regard for our mate. Help me—help us—to be perfected spiritually through the sanctifying process of unity in our marriage. In Christ’s name. Amen.

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The Scarlet Letter’s Book

‘Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. ‘ Ephesians 4:2(NLT)

Author of The Scarlet Letter, one of the first mass-produced books in America, Nathaniel Hawthorne did not only owe his success to the daily encouragement of his wife, but also because he was given an opportunity to write this amazing creation. 

When Nathaniel lost his job, he returned home to tell his wife that he was a failure. What surprised him was when his wife replied, “Now you can write your book!”  

“How are we able to live while I’m writing a book?” His amazing wife took out a lot of cash. “Where did you get so much money?”

The wife answered, “I’ve known for a long time that you are a genius and you will write an amazing book. Therefore, I scrimped and saved from our grocery money every week. This money is enough for our living expenses for one year.” Hawthorne finally wrote the best book that he had ever written—The Scarlet Letter.

This story gives an illustration of the importance of a constructive relationship in a family. Nathaniel would not have been able to produce this amazing book without the support and help from his wife. If a husband and a wife could support and build one another, they could turn many problems into an opportunity to produce something extraordinary.

Prayer: Lord, teach us to work together in building our marriage, family, and future. Teach us to support and strengthen one another in everything that we are going through. Amen. 

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True Love

‘Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. ‘ Colossians 3:14(NLT)

If my child asked me, “Mommy, how do I find true love?” This is what I would say: “Love is an attitude of your mind and heart. Love is not dependent on appearance, physical strength or romantic ambiance”.

“Your dad did not arrange romantic dinners or a second honeymoon. He did not bring me flowers. What he did was to repair my car and ensure that the tank was filled so I would not be stranded. He cleaned the carpet when grandma was scheduled to come, not because he cared about clean carpet, but because he knew I cared. Even though your dad did not like pets, when our cat died, he buried it for me. He comforted me when I cried and encouraged me to adopt kittens. So, remember, true love – continuous kindness – may come disguised, and often goes unnoticed.”

Love is not only shown by giving something expensive or something spectacular. Often, love is shown through continuous concern and the attitude of selfless serving. Let our family life be filled with care and service to one another, so that love will continue growing in our families. 

Prayer: Lord, teach us to be more sensitive to see the needs of our spouses and children. Give us the desire to serve and do the best for our families. Amen. 

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Never Looking Back

‘Then you will find favor with both God and people, and you will earn a good reputation. Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding.’ Proverbs 3:4-5(NLT)

John and Margie Cooper got married in 1941. They lived on a large farm and had high hopes to be the biggest producer in that country. However, four years later after Margie gave birth to two children, she contracted polio and had to spend most of her time in bed. Gone were all the hopes and dreams that John had for his marriage with Margie. They did not have anyone who could help John take care of Margie and the children. All the aspirations and dreams to own the biggest farm were gone because John had to give most of his time caring for his wife and children.

When John and Margie celebrated their 50th marriage anniversary, a distant friend asked John to explain his selfless, faithful years towards his disabled wife. John said something worth remembering, “How do I explain the years of my faithfulness to Margie? I had promised from the start that I would be with her no matter what happened, and I am a man of my word.” It might seem simple to some, but to John Cooper, it was the utmost foundation and he never looked back. 

Indeed, the foundation of marriage is the existence of the bond between a husband and a wife. When they enter into a marriage, they have no other way, except to live the marriage and never look back. When a husband and a wife hold onto what they promised to each other in their marriage vows, their marriage will survive every wave of life.

Prayer: Lord, teach us to hold fast to our marriage no matter what we face. We believe in Your power, presence, and help in every situation that we encounter.

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An Imperfect Tree

‘Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins. ‘ 1 Peter 4:8(NLT)

Slat Grobnik, a seller of Christmas trees, was observing a couple who was looking for a tree. The husband was slim and his wife was quite attractive, but they wore clothes that seemed to be bought from the Salvation Army. After passing by several very expensive Christmas trees, they found a pine Scotch tree with was quite OK on one side but had not so many leaves on the other side. They took another tree which was not in a better condition than the previous trees because one of its sides did not have many leaves. The wife whispered to her husband, and the husband asked if both trees could be bought at the price of $3. Slat realized that it would be difficult for him to sell those trees, so finally, he agreed to sell them both for $3. 

A few days later Slat was walking when he saw a beautiful tree in the couple’s apartment. The tree was full and the shape was good. He knocked on the door and the couple explained how they had tied the two trees together with the bare sides touching. The branches of the trees crossed over one another making the trees appear as one.. 

“So that is your secret,” exclaimed Slat, “You just took two imperfect trees with flaws that could have been discarded because no one would accept them. But united in the right way, you produced something so beautiful.”

The same goes for a marriage. We could not find a perfect husband or wife. Every one of us has so many imperfections. However, when we can complement and support each other and accept our spouse’s imperfections, we can have a beautiful marriage. 

Prayer: Lord, teach us to accept our spouse’s flaws and help us to complement each other in the family. Amen.

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The House Of Differences

‘Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. ‘ Colossians 3:14(NLT)

The massive house, Castleward was built in the 1760s and located about 30 miles from Belfast, Ireland. 

The first owner of this house was Bernard Ward and his wife, Lady Anne. One of the striking features of this house was the existence of two architectural styles. The back part of the house was built in the Gothic style, while the front part of the house was built in Neo-Classic style. This house was built this way because Bernard and Lady Anne could not agree with the architectural style of their house. Not only were they different in architectural style, but they also had so many differences that Lady Anne finally decided to leave the marriage.

Depending on your viewpoint, that house could be used as a symbol to celebrate the existence of differences, or a monument of their pride. Differences in thoughts, feelings, and hopes of husband and wife are quite common in a family. How the couple sees the differences will decide the happiness of their marriage. Let us view each difference positively, and be open to receive and adapt to each difference. When husband and wife can accept each other and be ready to adjust, differences in the family will enrich their married life. 

Prayer: Lord, teach us not to focus on our differences. Allow us to accept one another and focus on Your plans in our family life. Amen.

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