‘But Moses pleaded with the Lord , “O Lord, I’m not very good with words. I never have been, and I’m not now, even though you have spoken to me. I get tongue-tied, and my words get tangled.” Then the Lord asked Moses, “Who makes a person’s mouth? Who decides whether people speak or do not speak, hear or do not hear, see or do not see? Is it not I, the Lord ? Now go! I will be with you as you speak, and I will instruct you in what to say.”’ Exodus 4:10-12(NLT)
Introduction
Believe it or not, this is the last session of this study. But there’s one more thing that’s vital to know if you want to take communication in your marriage to the next level.
Once we know our spouse’s communication dynamic and train ourselves to really listen, we can discovery a life-altering truth: communication is not about us.
Tension
Remember our definition of effective communication from earlier in the study: when the receiver responds as intended.
Why is that definition so easy to understand but hard to achieve? How do you make sure effective communication happens?
Truth
Focus on your spouse, not on yourself. That’s the definition of servant communication.
God has placed you in a union where you can learn what it’s like to have a servant’s heart every day. Through your marriage, you can see how God is working in you, growing you.
Application
Marriage isn’t difficult.
That probably sounds incorrect considering how difficult we often make marriage. But if we stop making marriage about ourselves, it becomes as simple as performing small acts of service every day.
Over time, those small acts create connection. They draw us closer to our spouse.
Remember:
- You cannot NOT communicate.
- Everyone communicates differently.
- Everyone has their own way of communicating. It is not right or wrong; it’s just them.
Bottom Line
Servant communication is not about you.
from Closer Connection