‘For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.’ 2 Timothy 1:7(NLT)
‘Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.’ Romans 12:2(NLT)
‘So prepare your minds for action and exercise self-control. Put all your hope in the gracious salvation that will come to you when Jesus Christ is revealed to the world. ‘ 1 Peter 1:13(NLT)
Often our wives might grapple with emotional pain because somebody said or did something hurtful to them. Or it may be that you as a husband neglected to do something which was expected of you. You may have said or done something that you should not have said. In these circumstances, God wants to equip us with the help of the Holy Spirit to separate our emotions from the facts. Even where we might be the culprits, he wants to lead us to apologize and point out how if this argument and pain is not lovingly dealt with in prayer and surrender to the Holy Spirit, it could lead to serious injury in the form of bitterness, resentment, and harmful anger. This would be detrimental to both yours and her walk of sanctification with Christ.
In the above scenario, we should not only protect ourselves from slipping into unnecessary, prolonged emotional pain but we need to lead our wives and ourselves out of the tendency to slip into brooding over issues that should rather just be surrendered to Christ in faith and trust.
We need to lead in actively fighting for a “sound mind” which means that we do not entertain fear but rather we surrender to the realization of God’s unfailing love for us and His power available to us.
2 Timothy 1:7 states that a sound mind is available to a believer when proclaiming the Gospel.
from How to Protect Your Wife