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Talking About Sex Together

‘So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors the truth, for we are all parts of the same body. ‘ Ephesians 4:25(NLT)

‘In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.’ 1 Peter 3:7(NLT)

Devotional Content:

In today’s video, Dr. Kim asks Doug and Mel this question: “How do you talk about sex together?”

Talking about your sex life together can be difficult. I have counseled so many couples who have never really talked about sex. They may like or dislike what is happening but they never share their thoughts. Yet, I think it is essential. It is important to share your needs, wants, and desires. It’s “speaking your truth.” You are each other’s only sexual outlet and if sex is to be everything God designed it to be in your marriage, you can’t just roll the dice and hope it works out.   

Doug brings up another point that makes a difference. It is the importance of continuing to pursue your spouse. That is God’s design. Part of it is pursuing romance and part of it is the way we live our lives with them each day. Here is my take on that. The better you pursue your spouse outside of the bedroom, the better your sex life in the bedroom. What are you doing to pursue?

Today’s Challenge: 

Share with each other something you would like to be a part of your sex life together. Then talk together about how to grow your sexual relationship with each other.

Going Deeper:

How does knowing that you are each other’s only sexual outlet affect the way you look at your sexual relationship? How do you honor each other as you learn more about each other and your sexual relationship together?

from Sex: How Often by Dr. Kim Kimberling