‘Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it’s in your power to help them.’ Proverbs 3:27(NLT)
‘Oh, how beautiful you are! How pleasing, my love, how full of delights! You are slender like a palm tree, and your breasts are like its clusters of fruit. I said, “I will climb the palm tree and take hold of its fruit.” May your breasts be like grape clusters, and the fragrance of your breath like apples. May your kisses be as exciting as the best wine—
Young Woman
Yes, wine that goes down smoothly for my lover, flowing gently over lips and teeth. I am my lover’s, and he claims me as his own. Come, my love, let us go out to the fields and spend the night among the wildflowers. Let us get up early and go to the vineyards to see if the grapevines have budded, if the blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates have bloomed. There I will give you my love.’ Song of Songs 7:6-12(NLT)
Devotional Content:
In today’s video, Dr. Kim asks Doug and Mel this question, “What are you doing to make ‘normal’ happen?”
Song of Solomon refutes all the negative preconceived ideas people have about God and sex. In two different places in the book the couple enjoy the sexual relationship in marriage together. God is not a prude. He is the one who created sex. He made our bodies to perfectly fit together. He gives us sex in marriage as a gift and wants us to enjoy it as a couple.
In meeting with couples and talking about their sexual relationship, I see so many things that can distract us and keep us from spending this time together. For most couples they are not bad things. It could be work, kids, stress or any number of things that are a part of our lives. Being intentional with sex in our marriage seems to be a common theme as we look at defining “normal.” For Nancy and I, our sexual relationship connects us. When life gets in the way of sex, we both can feel a disconnect. We know we need that to be a regular part of our life and we know the value it brings. For us, making “normal” happen is a priority that we have never regretted.
Today’s Challenge:
Discuss together how sex is a good gift from a good God. Is there is anything that blocks you from seeing sex in this way? Reading Song of Solomon together would be a great way for you both to see God’s design for sex in your marriage.
Going Deeper:
Being intentional about your sex life can mean one thing to one couple and something different to another couple. What does it mean to you?
from Sex: How Often by Dr. Kim Kimberling