‘Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. ‘ 1 Peter 3:3-4(NLT)
‘Drink water from your own well— share your love only with your wife. Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? You should reserve it for yourselves. Never share it with strangers. Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.’ Proverbs 5:15-19(NLT)
Devotional Content:
In today’s video, Dr. Kim asks Doug and Mel this question, “What are some hurdles you have worked through that improved your sex life?”
It is interesting how God works. God has a way of making something beautiful out of something that seems terrible to us. The reality is that, at some time, we will all have hurdles that impede our sex life. It is up to us whether they grow our relationship or hinder it. God’s plan is always growth. For all of us, the way we look on the outside will change over time. From my perspective, it seems women struggle to accept this more than men do. Part of the role of a husband is to help our wives see the beauty we see in them at every stage of their life.
Peter talks about the “imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit”. Proverbs “tells us to enjoy the wife of our youth” for our entire marriage. When we encounter hurdles, we must keep our eyes focused on the big picture of loving each other and enjoying each other for a lifetime. Doug illustrates this well as he talks about a husband pursuing his wife and discovering who she is on the inside. I think this is powerful. For a man, this adds depth to the relationship. For a woman, she sees her husband love her in a way that only he is able to do. It helps us keep our focus where God wants it to be.
Today’s Challenge:
How does pursuing the “imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit” and “enjoying the wife of our youth” apply to you and your marriage?
Going Deeper:
As a couple, what is one hurdle that you have encountered that affected your sex life? Have you dealt with it? If not, are you willing to begin that now? Can you see how working through this hurdle can actually improve your sex life?
from Sex: How Often by Dr. Kim Kimberling