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Wise Parenting – Pivoting From ‘Controller’ to ‘Consultant’

‘Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. “Honor your father and mother.” This is the first commandment with a promise: If you honor your father and mother, “things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.’ Ephesians 6:1-4(NLT)

The definition of exasperate is to ‘irritate to a high degree’. Raising children in a way which reveals our heavenly Father’s love for them necessitates an intentional check on us as parents—to not discipline them from a place of irritation. It’s the key emotion that has been highlighted for us to avoid.  

When our children are young, the application of loving discipline helps guide them towards right conduct. We tend to behave as ‘controllers’, making decisions on their behalf that influence their day-to-day lives. As children grow older, a wise parent will pivot from being a ‘controller’ to becoming a ‘consultant’—offering wise counsel that helps our children learn from their mistakes by creating an environment where it’s okay to fail. Giving them counsel when consulted, and surrounding them in prayer and a culture of affirmation. 

This enables them to most naturally gravitate to the instruction in Ephesians 6:1 (TPT), “Children, if you want to be wise, listen to your parents and do what they tell you, and the Lord will help you”.

The revelation of a loving God who will help them sets our children up to live in the commanded blessings “You will prosper and live a long, full life.” (Ephesians 6:3)

from The Art Of Marriage

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Yield and Love – The Parallel Truth

‘For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her ‘ Ephesians 5:22-25(NLT)

Across the Middle East and Asia, the cultural expectations of women range from being under the complete rule of her closest male relative (leaving a woman subjected to an uncle or son to authorize her travel plans), to women being told their respect and identity is found when they take their place – in the kitchen. 

The word ‘submission’ is often wielded as a sword by insecure husbands who demand their own way. Often, some cultures demand that women submit to any man – going beyond the biblical instruction which specifies her ‘own husband’.

The Greek word for submission used in the scripture is hupotasso which can be interpreted as “to yield to one’s advice”. The English word submit implies being dominated by a superior. Personally, I don’t think that resonates with the biblical text or the Creator’s intentions from the beginning. 

The word ‘yield’ to your ‘own husband’ more accurately describes the biblical instruction which, when paralleled with the man’s instruction to ‘love your wife’, can result in a symphony of unity in purpose and mission. 

Yield doesn’t demand; it’s not forced. It’s a choice derived from free will to yield to another—one’s own husband, who with loving counsel directs the home in the best interest of every member. 

God, our loving Father, doesn’t demand our compliance. His gift to mankind was free will – yes, it can result in mistakes, like Adam and Eve, who chose wrongly.  But God didn’t adjust or change the fundamentals. Free will is still a gift. It’s a gift given by God and is expressed in our relationship with God and with others. 

As a wife in relationship with my loving husband, I choose to willingly give him the gift of a yielded heart. 

Wives, ‘yield’ to your own husbands. Husbands ‘love’ your wives.

from The Art Of Marriage

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A Suitable Helper

‘Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” ‘ Genesis 2:18(NLT)

Loneliness is a modern day epidemic. It transcends culture and geography. Loneliness is the exception that God identified when he declared that His creation was ‘good’. God’s antidote was the creation of a ‘suitable helper’.

The word helper ‘ezer’ in Hebrew used in Genesis 2:8 means one that is designed to be a corresponding and equal partner for Adam. There is no sense of subordination stated or implied or even hinted in this text. 

Culture has relegated many women throughout the ages to a role that was inferior to the role assigned to her by her creator. 

Jesus addressed the diminishing of the relationship between a man and a woman in Matthew 19:8(NIV): “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But, it was not this way from the beginning”.

We are surrounded by lonely husbands and wives who are burdened through the journey of life. Depression, the circumstantial type, is rampant as people try to conform to societal pressures that define the roles of a husband and wife which are in direct conflict with the intentions of the creator. 

Marriage is intended to have corresponding and equal partners. Marriage is designed to fulfill purpose and enjoyment in the embrace of true emotional, physical and spiritual bonding. Marriage is man and wife, in the covenant relationship of love and companionship. 

If we go back to the beginning and the initial intention of God,  we will find true contentment. 

from The Art Of Marriage

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An Influential Wife

‘She is like a merchant’s ship, bringing her food from afar. She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls. She goes to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard.’ Proverbs 31:14-16(NLT)

This scripture often quoted from Proverbs 31, outlines the characteristics and impact of an ‘Influential Wife’, not only an ‘Influential Woman’. 

In many cultures and communities, in the transition of a young woman to a wife, she is expected to give up her entrepreneurial life and become subjected to the rule of her husband. The cultural expectations of the role of a wife see her world, hopes and dreams shrinking. 

That worldview is diametrically opposed to the biblical ideal of a good wife. 

The ‘Ideal (most suitable) Wife’ outlined in the scripture is an ‘Influential Wife’. 

She is a trader (entrepreneur) who is not restricted in her thinking or business to a local mindset or business, but a global one. 

She manages her home with diligence. 

She is compassionate towards the poor.

She is wise in her counsel.

Can a modern biblical wife reflect the ancient biblical model of influence?

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Oneness Defined

‘And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.” ‘ 1 Corinthians 6:16(NLT)

Does the ‘one flesh’ referenced in the scriptures extend beyond the physical dimension to include one’s personhood?

I’ve heard the words ‘the two shall be one’ echo throughout my life as it coupled with the instruction to submit myself to the man I love. The resounding echo back to my feeble heart and ears was ‘you lose’ in order to ‘gain’ love.

You lose your identity. 

You lose your uniqueness.

You lose your ability to make decisions.

You lose your sense of self.

You lose, as you merge into another with a new identity, new covering, and a new role, all pre-destined for you.

For years I believed the lie.

As I changed my name and my role, I emerged, lost and submerged in the expectation of what a ‘good’ Christian wife and mother should be.

I gained love and paid for it with myself until I re-examined what I had blindly accepted.

Could our lives be like primary colours? I saw myself as red, and him blue. Together we formed the colour purple. A distinct colour; a distinct unit with purpose, identity, fulfillment and wholeness.

I could remain ‘red’—pursue my gifting, enjoy my pursuits, and have the power to make financial, emotional, and relational decisions. My ‘red’ could exist and contribute to the creation of purple. My ‘red’ could find my own voice, passion, purpose, fulfillment and at the same time merge into purple.

So when the Bible reminded me that there is no male or female, no gender, no marriage, no combos in heaven, I realized I must give account for my own life.

The truth sank in. I’m responsible for my ‘red’. I will have to give account for ‘myself’. 

I don’t lose when I gain love.

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George Smiles From Jane’s Marmalade – Day 7

‘Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever. ‘ Hebrews 13:8(NLT)

‘In the sixth month of Elizabeth’s pregnancy, God sent the angel Gabriel to Nazareth, a village in Galilee, to a virgin named Mary. She was engaged to be married to a man named Joseph, a descendant of King David. Gabriel appeared to her and said, “Greetings, favored woman! The Lord is with you! ” Confused and disturbed, Mary tried to think what the angel could mean. “Don’t be afraid, Mary,” the angel told her, “for you have found favor with God! You will conceive and give birth to a son, and you will name him Jesus. He will be very great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his ancestor David. And he will reign over Israel forever; his Kingdom will never end!” Mary asked the angel, “But how can this happen? I am a virgin.” The angel replied, “The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. So the baby to be born will be holy, and he will be called the Son of God. What’s more, your relative Elizabeth has become pregnant in her old age! People used to say she was barren, but she has conceived a son and is now in her sixth month. For the word of God will never fail. ”’ Luke 1:26-37(NLT)


30,000 foot view of our priorities: GOD, SPOUSE, FAMILY, JOB, MINISTRY

ASK God to show up in your time today as we wrap our arms around living out the GSFJM list. 

READ: HEB 13.8, LUK 1.26-37

DEVOTIONAL: “No word from God will ever fail.” While this one verse is tucked into what might be considered just an “Intro to Christmas” story, it’s the foundation for how God’s word and will play out for us in our everyday lives. The Angel Gabriel shows up to tell Mary she is highly favored. Her response? She is troubled by his words. Huh? An angel just told you “You are special” and you’re troubled? That’s our natural broken state though, to not immediately accept or trust God working in our lives. Many times God will speak to us through prayers, reading His Word, circumstances and people to inform us. And if that big left turn comes taking us down a different path from what we expected or planned for our own lives, we get confused, angry even. It’s not easy to accept when something like this happens (even though it may very well be the best thing for us!). While I may not readily agree with what God is doing, I always take it from the “Let’s assume that God is still in control and knows what He is doing in my life.” Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever! 

The world may try hard to preoccupy us, pull us into different, less fulfilling lives if we let it. There are a million voices vying for our attention today and it can be easy to get distracted, off track, or give up. God made you, God loves you and God made you special.  So choose every day, every hour, every minute to have the courage to stand strong and live up to these priorities of honoring God, honoring our spouses, leading our families, being present in our jobs and helping others through ministry. GOD, SPOUSE, FAMILY, JOB, MINISTRY – Believe it, seek it, live it. 

WRITE down some thoughts about finishing up this reading plan. What do you think about living out these priorities? What needs to change in your life to help you put these in order? How can you engage your spouse, your family, people at work to help you be better at living these out? What do you need to give back to God that will allow Him to be first in everything in your life?

MEDITATE: Ask God to be with you, to lead you and prompt you in everything you do in your life. Ask God to be present with you, to guide you and give you wisdom for following Him and living out these priorities. Thank Him for creating and loving YOU – no matter what! And like Mary did, tell God from your heart, “I am Your servant. May your word in me be fulfilled!” 

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George Smiles From Jane’s Marmalade – Day 6

‘Anyone who wants to serve me must follow me, because my servants must be where I am. And the Father will honor anyone who serves me.’ John 12:26 https://my.bible.com/bible/116/JHN.12.26

‘For God is not unjust. He will not forget how hard you have worked for him and how you have shown your love to him by caring for other believers, as you still do. ‘ Hebrews 6:10 https://my.bible.com/bible/116/HEB.6.10

‘For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But don’t use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature. Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love. ‘ Galatians 5:13(NLT)

‘And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. ‘ Romans 12:1(NLT)

‘Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full—pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back.”’ Luke 6:38(NLT)

#5 on our list: MINISTRY

ASK God to show up for you as you’re going over priority #5 on the GSFJM list. 

READ:  JHN 12:26, HEB 6:10, GAL 5:13, ROM 12.1, LUK 6.38

DEVOTIONAL: My choice to get involved in mission work has given me and my family the opportunity to travel all over the world and meet some amazing people. When working with people and teams to prepare them for going on their first mission trip, it is interesting how most of the thought process is wrapped around their thoughts of “helping others that are less fortunate.” That’s a great reason to go for sure and may be just the thing that gets you going on a trip like that. But after coming back, what I find is that people are changed, internally and externally from the experience of “helping others” or “doing” ministry. I served as a youth ministry assistant helping lead high school youth mission trips to Costa Rica twice a year from a pretty well-do-to church community and more often than not when we would return, parents would come up to me and say, “What the heck did you do to my kid?!!! They want us to sell everything.” That’s kinda what hands-on ministry does to you when you’re all-in. As my kids like to say, “You get wrecked!” I remember leading men’s groups into Juarez, Mexico to build houses for families living in the barrios. Men loved to sign up, bring their tools and “get ‘er done.” Over the years, I saw the toughest of tough men broken, tears streaming down their face while sitting in church with the families that had received the homes we built, just grateful for a place to call home (that home BTW, was about the size of one of our one car garages here in the USA). I watched many of those same tough men, after serving and listening to God’s voice through their hard work in missions in Juarez and other places, step forward to dedicate their lives to full time or regular service through ministry. Wow!  

Here’s the truth – When you choose to serve, no matter what reason it started out for, you will most likely be changed to see things the way God sees them, and it changes your perspective about what we have and how we live. I’m certainly not telling you to go out and sell everything, but that reaction from our mission high schoolers was a great indicator of God working in their hearts – just like He’ll work in yours.  What I am saying is this: it’s never too late to get involved. Get out of your comfort zone and join God by serving others. That can be doing laundry at a local homeless shelter, packing boxes at the food bank, sitting down to help families in transition understand how to balance their checkbooks, repairing or painting homes of seniors, or going to Africa or Indonesia (or anywhere!) for a couple of weeks to teach English or do a VBS week for kids; there are LOTS of things you can do with a group from your faith community, whether on a 17 hour flight taking you 9000 miles away or right down the street with a family struggling to make ends meet due to health or job changes.  James 1:22 says, “Don’t just merely listen to [God’s] word, and so deceive yourself. Do what it says!” So get out there and DO IT!   

WRITE down some thoughts about your Bible reading today. How do you feel about being involved in ministry? Does it make you nervous? Is it fun? What skills do you have, maybe from your job or other experiences  that might be valuable for others around your faith community, in your town or for neighbors? Write down some ideas about how you could make yourself available for ministry. Follow through with doing it! 

MEDITATE: Take the time to think and pray about what came out in your writing and reading time today. Pray over these things for a better clarity and direction for the Holy Spirit to speak to you for how to get out of your comfort zone and be active in ministry.

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George Smiles From Jane’s Marmalade – Day 5

(NLT)

‘If you are a thief, quit stealing. Instead, use your hands for good hard work, and then give generously to others in need. ‘ Ephesians 4:28(NLT)

‘Work with enthusiasm, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. ‘ Ephesians 6:7(NLT)

‘“Beware of false prophets who come disguised as harmless sheep but are really vicious wolves. You can identify them by their fruit, that is, by the way they act. Can you pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? A good tree produces good fruit, and a bad tree produces bad fruit. A good tree can’t produce bad fruit, and a bad tree can’t produce good fruit. So every tree that does not produce good fruit is chopped down and thrown into the fire. Yes, just as you can identify a tree by its fruit, so you can identify people by their actions.’ Matthew 7:15-20(NLT)

#4 on our list: JOB

ASK God to show up. I can hear you already, “Seriously, in my work?!!” Yes, this is a big one. We want God to be active in our work as we go over priority #4 on the GSFJM list. 

READ: 1 COR 10:31, EPH 4:28, 6:7, MAT 7:15-20 

DEVOTIONAL: Our jobs can glorify God. God made Adam and Eve and put them in the Garden to take care of it. If you’ve ever gardened – it’s definitely work! And that was before the fall! I believe we can be joyful and enjoy God through our work. This might not mean singing hymns, reading the Bible or praying in that environment (or maybe it does!), but if we understand that God made us to work, our workplace can take on a whole new spiritual meaning. 

When I first gave my life to Christ and started attending church, there was this unspoken, unwritten, kind of weird overarching perceived priority that the best thing you could do if you were a “Christian” is to become a pastor. Don’t get me wrong, pastors are important people, but my reaction was, “Well THAT’S NOT GONNA HAPPEN!” The second best thing was becoming a missionary. So, I got involved in missions, but continued to work in my “real” job. I’m in an industry that is typically void of God and even hostile toward anything “Jesus” so I was navigating my space with this new thing called faith. During my prayer times, God started to reveal to me that I was in a place that no pastor or missionary would even be able to come close to or relating to people with the gospel. It became very clear that I COULD be a pastor, and my “pastoring” and being a missionary for me was being in my work, in the places that I got to go in my work and being around the people I got to be around in my work. I told my pastor this and he agreed that his job was to teach me on Sundays how to “live my faith” in the midst of my job throughout the rest of the week. It became incredibly powerful for me personally in learning to “walk the walk” so that everything I did, even my mistakes, would allow for people to ask me why I was different. I call this the 1 Peter 3:15 moment in life. If we are living our lives fully for Christ, even without talking about it out loud very much, people will notice the difference. And then they will ask you “WHY?” It might take years, but that’s the door that God opens to allow us to talk about Him, and what our faith means to us. “Be ready to speak up and tell anyone who asks why you’re living the way you are, and always with the utmost courtesy.” (The Message

Your work is part of the calling God has in your life. It’s not just a paycheck. It’s a place that God can and will (if you let Him!) extend His Kingdom and influence. It’s part of the big plan, which includes YOU and your work! You make a difference every day through your work. So, do your work well, as if you were doing it for God as your boss. And don’t be afraid to talk about God and His role in your life if that opportunity presents itself. Pray for your work, your co-workers, your influence.  

WRITE down some thoughts about your Bible reading today. How do you feel about your job and how you can honor God in your work in your everyday life? Be honest with yourself about struggles and/or impressions and feelings you have around your work and how God can be involved through you in your work. 

MEDITATE: Take the time to think and pray about what came out in your writing and reading time today around God and your job. Pray over these things for a better clarity and direction for the Holy Spirit to speak to you for how to put God first in all you do and to overcome any challenges or obstacles in that effort. 

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George Smiles From Jane’s Marmalade – Day 4

‘But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers.’ 1 Timothy 5:8(NLT)

‘But if you refuse to serve the Lord , then choose today whom you will serve. Would you prefer the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates? Or will it be the gods of the Amorites in whose land you now live? But as for me and my family, we will serve the Lord .”’ Joshua 24:15(NLT)

‘We love each other because he loved us first.’ 1 John 4:19(NLT)

‘Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.’ 1 Corinthians 13:4-7(NLT)

#3 on our list: FAMILY

ASK God to show up for you in this time to inform you around honoring your family. 

READ: 1TI 5.8, JOS 24.15, 1JO 4.19, 1CO 13.4-7

DEVOTIONAL:  I remember people telling us about the “terrible two’s” but somehow I missed all the advice about raising teenagers! I remember going through a particularly hard time with one of my daughters while she was a senior in high school and both of us were really upset and frustrated with each other. She was expressing her anger at me, vocal for what seemed like unclear expectations. She said, “You’re the parent. You should know what you’re doing by now.” I responded passionately, “Hey, I’m doing the best I can. This is actually my first time I’ve been in this situation too you know, dealing with an 18-year-old daughter, so let’s just figure this out together.” This was a breakthrough for us both. Sometimes our kids expect us to have all the answers, but if we’re honest with ourselves (and them), this may be the first time we’re dealing with a situation or issue that neither one of us has been in before. Maybe you had a good example of parenting in your life, maybe you didn’t.  So take your time, pray together, read the Bible together, seek wise counsel from others on this journey and figure it out. Love your children, be there for them, care about them, love them no matter what. What’s that look like? We have a regular thing we do at the dinner table every night (That’s a commitment in itself – dinner together regularly!). We each take a turn to give our highs and our lows of the day. Everybody listens, and then when that person is finished, they get to pick who goes next. Sometimes it’s not much info, but other times whatever is shared leads to incredible conversations and “wisdom” in figuring out this thing called “life” together. Having kids is what I call “the hardest, most fun you’ll ever have.” It is certainly an adventure, and it takes patience and intentionality on our part as parents. So make it your priority, right behind God and your Spouse, to put your kids first!

WRITE: Family is #3 on our list of priorities. Think honestly how you are doing as a parent and write down the things that you feel you have been and are doing well. Celebrate those things! This is hard work! Write down some areas where you think you may have failed or been challenged , or maybe you could have done better. Think if there are any reasonable changes you can makes in those areas. Don’t fret! All of these things can be used by God for growing our children in Him. We are not perfect, but He is!  We are doing our best and we want the best for our children. It’s okay – we’re trying our hardest to do what is right and learning along the way. 

MEDITATE: Thank God for your children and your family. Let God hear your honest and heartfelt concerns over the things you think maybe you have not done as well as you would have liked. Ask the Holy Spirit to wash over you in this time. Praise God for giving you the strength to be a parent and press forward, no matter what the difficulties and challenges. Thank God for His love for you, for allowing you to be part of His family and ask for the continued wisdom and clarity for making decisions as a parent in guiding your children. 

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George Smiles From Jane’s Marmalade – Day 3

‘Fathers can give their sons an inheritance of houses and wealth, but only the Lord can give an understanding wife.’ Proverbs 19:14(NLT)

‘“Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’” And he said, “‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”’ Matthew 19:4-6(NLT)

‘Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. Don’t love money; be satisfied with what you have. For God has said, “I will never fail you. I will never abandon you.” So we can say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper, so I will have no fear. What can mere people do to me?” Remember your leaders who taught you the word of God. Think of all the good that has come from their lives, and follow the example of their faith.’ Hebrews 13:4-7(NLT)

‘Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. ‘ Colossians 3:14(NLT)

‘Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.’ Ecclesiastes 4:9-12(NLT)

‘Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins. ‘ 1 Peter 4:8(NLT)

#2 on our list: SPOUSE

ASK God to show up.  Ask the Holy Spirit to guide your “thoughts and feelings” around this topic of honoring your Spouse in the #2 position on the GSFJM list. 

READ:  PRV 19.14, MAT 19.4-6, HEB 13.4-7, COL 3.14, ECC 4.9-12, 1PT 4.8

DEVOTIONAL: The whole Biblical concept of “leaving and cleaving,” i.e., leaving your family to become one with your spouse – that’s a big deal. And just like God and the Holy Spirit are real, so is this commitment to your spouse. You choose your spouse because of an initial love for that person. As time presses onward and the “honeymoon” feels like it is over, you need to work at keeping that relationship in place. And putting that person in the second seat right after God in our list of priorities takes some effort. The traditional marriage vows; “to have and to hold, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, till death do us part,” are important and can be really hard. We all have our view of what we think life should be like, and yet when things go differently, how do we react? Are we ready to throw in the towel too easily? Honoring your spouse may take some real grit as life presses in on you – the commitments of little children or managing teenagers, maybe taking care of older parents, through a surprise job loss or even the loss of big dreams. But making that intentional time with your spouse, to put that person in front of everything else we have here on earth, is really, really important. Spend time in prayer together each day sharing your concerns and hopes, dreams and realities. Don’t let anything get in front of this relationship. Without that commitment, things fall apart. I’m sure you have your own examples of spousal relationships going bad. If you stand strong with and for your spouse, God will honor this and you will keep the ties close with that person who is so special to you (and to God!), that you are one with as per God’s direction from His word.  

WRITE. How are you doing with keeping your Spouse in that position right behind God? What might need to change to make this happen more regularly so it becomes a natural order for you?  How can you draw in your spouse to do this study with you so you’re both working on your relationship together? Are there any things you can identify that are standing in your way of honoring your spouse in this way? What are those and how can you actively change them?

MEDITATE: Take the time to think and pray about what came out in your writing and reading time today. Pray over these things, and maybe go include your spouse in this time. Commit to time praying regularly with your spouse. Ask together for clarity and direction for the Holy Spirit to speak to you for how to honor each other in your marriage relationship. Thank God for bringing you together and ask Him to be with you.

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