‘You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way.’ Song of Songs 4:7(NLT)
‘Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly.’ Colossians 3:19(NLT)
‘The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control. ‘ 1 Corinthians 7:3-5(NLT)
‘Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. ‘ Ecclesiastes 4:9(NLT)
You and your partner have core needs. These needs require both of you to practice specific behaviors that make each of you feel loved. These needs are normal, innate, and God-given. They are personality based, an essential part of who you are, and they don’t change over your lifetime.
To feel truly loved, you must have your core needs met on a regular basis. And they can be met only by your significant other.
(It must be stated here that as individuals we have needs in our lives that only God can meet.)
But here’s the catch. It will be very difficult for you to meet each other’s core needs. It will not come naturally. In fact, meeting your partner’s core needs will be your area of greatest weakness. Doesn’t seem fair, does it? Well, who said love is fair? Love is hard.
Tell your partner your top three core needs. Ask your partner how you are doing meeting his or her core needs.
For my wife and I, our daily need-meeting system has made a huge difference in our relationship. We are convinced it will do the same for you and your partner.
from Honey, We Need To Talk